Inspiration from the Couch

Avery Hoenig, PhD, Jamie Wilson, PhD, and Lucy Smith, PhD

Ever wonder what tools and advice psychologists are inspired to use in their own lives? Join Avery, Jamie, and Lucy, three psychologists, and moms, as they discuss what they’ve figured out, what they’ve yet to figure out, and what there’s just no figuring out. Through our stories and pearls of wisdom, we hope we can inspire listeners to connect to themselves and others more mindfully, authentically, and powerfully. It’s sure to be fun, and you may learn a little something along the way!
EP 33: Mental Health and the HolidaysEP 32: TraditionsEP 31: Intentional Holiday SeasonEP 30: Being of PowerEP 29: Embrace Naked RealityEP 28: Give it Up to Get EmptyEP 27: Be a Yes
Today’s episode marks the beginning of a four-part series. In this installment, we do a deep dive into one of the topics that we found to be most helpful and relevant in the book Being of Power by Baron Baptiste. Avery, Lucy, and Jamie explore “Being a Yes” or “being confident in your ability to turn difficulty into possibility.” We talk about what can get in the way of “being a yes” and focus on a step-by-step strategy to "Be a Yes."Note: No prior reading/knowledge of this book is required to enjoy and benefit from this episode. “Being a Yes” exercise:1.    Choose an area of your life where you feel stuck or shut down. The first one that comes to mind is probably a good one to go with. 2.    Take out a piece of paper and write down the negative thoughts about that part of your life: worries, concerns, complaints. Don’t judge or filter, just tell the truth and get it down on paper. 3.    Get really calm, notice your feet on the floor, and observe if there’s even a tiny sense of “something new is possible.” Write those thoughts down too. 4.    Get clear on your intention. It may become clear just by writing and paying attention to your thoughts. If you need more clarity, you may ask yourself questions like: “What really matters to me in life?” “Who do I aspire to be?” “What do I value” “Who am I choosing to be for others and myself?”5.    Commit to the intention. Write it down: I am going to do that. I am going to be that. 6.    As you remain committed to the intention, pay attention to what takes you out of the intention. What is the resistance you are working against? “Our resistance dissolves by relaxing with what is and holding that space for something new to open up” (p.15). Do try this at home:Try the “Being a Yes” exerciseQuite often, we are wishy washy in our language, but there is power in declaration. Set your intention and say, “I am committed to…”  Drop the “I want” and instead say “I am.” To be courageous means to live with and from the heart. Practice living from the heart.We would love to connect with you and hope you’ll check out our Facebook group!
Oct 21 2021
29 mins
EP 26: Perfectionism, Take 2EP 25: Maybe you Should Talk to SomeoneEP 24: Treatment SeekingEP 23: PerfectionismEP 22: Don't be an AssholeEP 21: Cognitive LoadEP 20: The Art of GatheringEP 19: NostalgiaEP 18: ChangeEP 17: GratitudeEP 16: Speaking TruthEP 15: The F*ck It DietEP 14: Aging