Hi Moms! Raising a child on the spectrum keeps us busy while adding bumps in our autism journey along the way. It is natural to experience shifts in your mindset that leaves you feeling discouraged.Our children don’t just check off the milestone boxes. They keep us on our toes and sometimes revisit old behaviors and challenges. Other times, they keep moving forward. I was just chatting with a friend, who explored this very thing. You know the one I am talking about. Regression!It happens to all of us. Sometimes, our child regresses briefly. Other times, it sticks around a bit longer than we would like. But nonetheless, it happens. So let’s take a deep breath in for 5 and hold and deeply out for 6. Because in this episode, we dive into what to do when regression occurs and we feel like we aren’t doing enough or have dropped the ball when our child needs us most. Find the full transcript for this episode at https://thrivingmomsofautistics.com/93Please share the podcast with other moms to help them grow in their autism journey. You can also do this by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. I appreciate you!Be sure to subscribe to the Thriving Moms of Autistics YouTube Channel!When Climbing the Mountains of Autism Impacts Mom’s Well-Being and MindsetWe all enjoy those times when things seem a bit more settled. It is different for all families. Some might feel challenges are consistent with very short lived breaks, while others might experience brief periods of calm before the next challenge. All of these are true, but they come in seasons.Regardless of your experience, we have all felt that we could have handled some situations better than we did. That leaves us with disappointment, sadness, and sometimes shame. All moms regardless of their situation experience this. Autism moms likely experience more of this given the challenges they are faced with. We can be really hard on ourselves. What Can Autism Moms Do When They Are Frustrated and Need Positive Change?When this occurs, create awareness. You already know that something is amiss. It is really helpful to identify what you are feeling. For example, you might be feeling angry. Narrow that down. Are you feeling frustrated? Annoyed? Put a name to the feeling.When we feel frustrated because we might not have handled something as well as we could have, our go to is to blame. When we blame others or blame ourselves, we get stuck and struggle to move forward. We only have control over ourselves for one. Here are 4 steps for moving forward, so that you can grow as a mom in your autism journey:Gain clarity though awarenessBe willing to stop blaming yourself & recognize it will only lead to being stuckRemind yourself that you don’t know what you don’t know and that you aren’t perfectDecide to learn from it and use that lesson in the future!Always remember that you control your own thoughts and feelings. I know that is hard because we feel so out of control at times. Exploring and owning your thoughts and feelings can be scary, but you can do this, and you’re not alone in that.Also, don’t underestimate your power of learning lessons along the way so that you recognize your resilience and can be empowered as you grow your mindset and overcome obstacles along the way. We are life-long learners! I hope this helps. I look forward to our time together next week.

An Autism Moms Journey is Ever ChangingHi there, it's Christina. I hope you are having a wonderful week. We're going to do things a little differently this week.  So I thought that we would just spend some really organic time together where I'm just going to be vulnerable and just share some things with you, because I think it's good for everyone to kind of get an idea.So you know that this person does understand, this person has a child on the spectrum and has experiences that are similar to me, right? That's really, really important, so I thought, okay, I'm just going to peel back some of the layers and I'm going to share some of that with you today.  Now, we all remember what it was like when we had our child, right? It was one of the best days of my life. My parents actually divorced when I was four, which was unusual in the 70s, so of course, you know, I'm different from everyone just based on that. But actually, I was really different from other people anyway. You know, it was really new, the whole neurodivergence, and all of those things, so. My parents decided to get back together and get married again. And then they divorced again when I was five.  They tried, okay? You've got to give them that. They tried.  We actually moved from Florida and up to a northern state. And everything was so different.  So I had to really assimilate into a different way of living.I knew I was different, like I said, and I saw all the seasons as I was growing up. I see that now and how that really has helped me develop into the person that I am today.  So I had decided that I was going to wait to get married.I wanted to be a psychologist. I loved working with children and families and adults and just anybody and everybody. You know, all of the populations that I worked with, I just loved them all. And I was married to my work for the longest time until the right person came around. And I was willing to wait.So I got married at 40.  Along the way, I had some medical issues and the doctor said that I wouldn't have children. And I thought, you know, God's bigger than that. You know, maybe if another doctor says that, okay, that's something else.  And so another doctor came along eventually and said, I don't see you having children.I don't think it's going to be possible.  But then there was a third, eventually, in my thirties, and he said, I don't know why not.  And I thought, okay, I'm going to look at the statistics here, because I'm a data girl. And I thought, okay, you know, two people have already told me this.Maybe, I should just go ahead and just live my life the way it was meant to live, and it's still going to be a beautiful life. It's going to be okay.I did grieve, and especially when a lot of people say, Oh, it's such a shame because you should be a mom. It wasn't something that I was going to have. So I accepted it, and then I met my husband. And we knew right away, oh yeah, that he was the one. And I told him, I said, you need to understand because I don't know if you want children, but I'm not going to be able to have children.So he's like, no, cause he was actually older than me and by a couple of years. So we're headed for retirement. We're thinking about retirement and planning. And so I was sitting at my desk one day. I was still practicing at the time and it was almost lunchtime and I thought, oh man, I'm so hungry.I've never been so hungry in my life.  And I had been feeling kind of weird for a couple days. Something was off. So, I just finished up some paperwork, getting ready to go to lunch. And you know what? It just hit me like a ton of bricks, literally. And I know that whenever I get a nudge in my stomach, and for me, you know, in my faith, I know that that

Hi Moms! Who are you surrounded by in your journey? Are you alone when it comes to support? Or do you have a small number of people around you who understand autism and support you?You might have a mix of people who get autism with those who don’t. Regardless of where you are in your journey, you won’t want to miss this.In this episode, we dive into building the support you need for your autism journey starting with where you are based on your needs.Find the full transcript for this episode at https://thrivingmomsofautistics.com/91Please share the podcast with other moms to help them grow in their autism journey. You can also do this by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. I appreciate you!Be sure to subscribe to the Thriving Moms of Autistics YouTube Channel!Can Moms Manage Their Autism Journey Successfully on Their Own or With Limited Support?In previous episodes, I mentioned the early years of my journey and how I lacked community. Things were very different then.My husband and I believed that we were doing well on our own. Afterall, it is hard to help others understand autism. They often have many preconceived ideas about autism. It’s hard to understand something so complex when you have little to no experience with it. I was a psychologist, so I figured that between me and my husband, we could handle it. That sounded good, right? But it wasn’t realistic. We needed more. Our lives changed so much once we made the decision to invite others in. The right people, of course.What Does a Positive Community Look Like for an Autism Mom?The autism experience has its ups and downs as with anything in life. Sometimes people don’t understand the “why” behind the behavior. They don’t understand how autistics experience the world differently based on their sensory needs. As humans, we often make assumptions about things we don’t understand. There is one thing I want you to remember. You only have control over you. Your thoughts… your actions… Others are responsible for themselves. They have to make the decision to get it or not. A supportive community might look like connecting with other moms, support groups, professionals, and so much more.When you meet someone who gets your experience, it is a huge relief. There is this beautiful shift that occurs. Even if support is coming from a professional that deals with it from a different point of view, they can still support based on empathy and tips they have learned from other’s experiences. They genuinely want to help. When I talk about the shift that occurs, I am referring to hope. That is the best example I can come up with. When I feel that shift in being supported, I feel hopeful, empowered, and more confident. You deserve to have this too because the road we travel can be hard at times. The increased stress, anxiety, demands, and burnout have an impact on our mental health and well-being.That is another reason why it is important to have a positive support system. Here are some tips for finding your tribe:Identify what works best for you. Only you know what a good fit is for you and your family. Be mindful that online communities are wide open in terms of what might or might not be a fit for you. It is okay to keep scrolling when your values are different from other members.Find professions that you mesh well with.If someone (family or friend) pushes their ideas on you or refuse to be respectful of your beliefs and experiences, they are not likely a good fit for your supportive en

Hi Moms! As moms, we are all different. We have different beliefs, different personalities, and different situations. Our kids are the same way. They experience unique challenges that each face differently based on their sensory experiences. With that said, moms share a multitude of things and the impact it has on their well-being. My son went through a very difficult season when my husband and I got sick a few years ago. I recall picking him up from Kindergarten one day. I still had drain tubes coming out of my stomach and was healing. It took everything I had to pick him up and bring him home. He was in the middle of a behavior and struggling to find calm. He was in full on fight mode trying to deal with his emotions and regulate his body as his two therapists were getting him into the car. I avoided turning around from the driver's seat. For one, I didn’t want to distract from what they were doing to help him and the process in general. I did not want him to see my tears. I recall thinking, I can’t do this. “Can’t” is not usually in my vocabulary, but I was at a loss for so many reasons.Moms are human beings. We experience hard emotions and sometimes do not react well. Sometimes we have thoughts that we are ashamed of. We have ALL been there. It happens. Where we go from there is critical to our success. In this episode, I share some tips to help you transition from feeling overwhelmed and incompetent to feeling confident and empowered.Find the full transcript for this episode at https://thrivingmomsofautistics.com/90Please share the podcast with other moms to help them grow in their autism journey. You can also do this by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. I appreciate you!Be sure to subscribe to the Thriving Moms of Autistics YouTube Channel!Self-Awareness and Autism MomsIt starts with self-awareness. Without awareness, you cannot move forward. You must first recognize your thoughts and feelings. Remind yourself that “this” is hard, and you’re going to struggle at times. Once you recognize that and remember you are an imperfect human, you allow yourself to shift and change the narrative. Moms often get stuck in the negative narrative. I’ve been there too. You cannot win when you’re stuck. We can judge ourselves pretty harshly. Key Ingredients for Mom Growth The first ingredient for growth is awareness. The second is reframing. This allows you to shift away from being stuck in negativity to changing your perspective, which leads to success. I often say that perception is everything. It can make or break you.It is so easy to get caught up in what went wrong. It can be hard to find something that went right in difficult situations. One way to reframe your thoughts is to think of challenges as setbacks and opportunities for growth. Instead of saying, “I can’t” or “there is nothing I can do,” you can acknowledge what occurred and your part in it. Then, you can consider how you might handle it differently in the future.Don’t forget to celebrate small wins along the way. That gives you momentum and is a wonderful opportunity to identify what has gone right. One way to feel empowered is to recognize those small wins. Giving yourself grace in the difficulties goes a very long way. This is one reason why self-care and building your support network are  important. In my upcoming course, I focus on all of the important ingredients for mom's success. This new course is near to my heart because I recognize that autism m

Hi Moms! Facing the unique challenges of raising an autistic can feel very heavy. If I said that there are ways to lighten your load, would you jump on it? You might not believe it is even possible. But I know it is because I have experienced it myself. There is also years of research that supports it.In this episode, I share our common experiences and how you can leverage your own innate tools to overcome challenges.Find the full transcript for this episode at https://thrivingmomsofautistics.com/89Please share the podcast with other moms to help them grow in their autism journey. You can also do this by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. I appreciate you!Be sure to subscribe to the Thriving Moms of Autistics YouTube Channel!Common Experiences of Autism MomsOne of the biggest barriers for any autistic child is communication. As moms we become quite skillful at determining our child’s concerns and needs. However, there are times we miss the mark, which is completely normal. This can feel overwhelming for moms and their children. We want to support our children the best we can.Moms typically become very in tune with their child’s heightened or reduced sensitivity to sensory inputs. Depending on the child, this leads to meltdowns or withdrawal. Again, there is no perfect calculation for moms to catch this every time.Transitions and schedule changes often pose issues. Sometimes, moms cannot plan for these. It happens and will happen in the future. These are things all autism moms experience. The good news is there are things that can help, especially when the unexpected occurs. When Moms Harness Their Innate Strengths, It Is a Game ChangerInnate just means something within you. Something you are born with whether you are aware of it or not. What are your superpowers? Everyone has them, but you can’t use them if you’re not aware of them.Your strengths are key to thriving in the midst of challenges. When you leverage your strengths in these difficult times, you change the outcome. Sometimes, we feel there is nothing we can do. But we do have some power. Acknowledging this allows for hope.We are unique individuals and do not all have the same strengths. These are things you are born with. They are a part of you. Once you are aware of your strengths, you can use and grow them like building a muscle.Here are some examples of strengths that can be used when difficulties arise. Perseverance- Moms with the strength of perseverance do not give up easily and see things to the end. This is associated with courage. Prudence- Prudent moms tend to think things through in the process. They consider the consequences and proceed with caution, wisdom, and reason. Social Intelligence- Moms with higher social intelligence are able to understand their own behaviors and the behaviors of others based on experiences of what has worked and what has not in the past. They are able to pick up on things relatively quickly. This is an important strength to have when faced with challenges.So, what are your strengths? This is hard to identify for all of us. Ask yourself, “What do I do well? If you are still having trouble, remember that everyone has strengths. Ask someone who knows you well to offer their insights into your strengths. Ask a few people if you can.This is so important because your strengths help you uniquely tackle challenges that often occur. I hope this helps and I look forward to our time together nex

Hi Moms! Welcome to a space created for moms like you with children on the spectrum. It’s a place to feel understood and know you are not alone.In this episode, I explore a topic that all moms know all too well at least on some level. It is a hard, yet very important topic. I am talking about lacking a supportive environment or community.Find the full transcript for this episode at www.thrivingmomsofautistics.com/88Please share the podcast with other moms to help them grow in their autism journey. You can also do this by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. I appreciate you!When Moms of Autistics Don’t Have Others to Lean OnHaving a network of like-minded individuals, who understand autism is like striking gold. There is so much power and strength in having such a community. Unfortunately, many moms don’t have that. If they do, it is limited or underdeveloped. Raising an autistic can be quite joyful, but there are times of great struggles. It is good to have others, who empathize rather than judge and support you through it. It’s a very lonely place to be at times. I often hear stories of families, friends, providers, and even strangers in public that don’t understand raising an autistic child. There are so many misconceptions making it even more isolating. People tend to assume that it is no different from raising a neurotypical child and that the same strategies work for autistics. That could not be further from the truth. Some moms have found groups of moms raising neurotypical but find their misconceptions even more challenging and daunting. Their expectations are so different for themselves and others. The looks and judgments are harmful even when unintended. It weighs heavily on moms and often leads to feelings of anxiety and depression. These stories are all too common. Does this resonate with you?The truth is that you are not alone. There are others like you. It’s just a matter of finding them. It’s not impossible to build a support system of individuals who understand autism. I help moms create a supportive environment tailored to their needs so they can move towards thriving in their autism journey. For more information, go to the homepage of https://thrivingmomsofautistics.com/work-with-christina/ and click on “work with Christina.” How Can Moms of Autistics Make a Shift Out of Isolation in the Meantime?Building a solid support system takes time. Here are a couple ways to jumpstart your community.Online Communities - Be cautious because not all online groups are created equal. Find one that suits your needs. There will always be one or two individuals that are difficult, but if you find a group with strong administrators, you will be supported. This is a great way to find others with similar experiences. This is a first step and does not replace in-person connections. It is a great resource and helps you see that there are others like you.Providers and Other Professionals - All families have a team of professionals helping them. Be mindful of your choice of providers. If your child’s doctor doesn’t understand autism, they are not for you. Sometimes there are barriers that are difficult to get around but do your best. It might take time to find other options. The road is not easy, but you have the strength and resilience to navigate through it. Continue to celebrate small wins along the way. And you are not alone and have options. I hope this helps! Let’s meet up again next week!

Hi Moms! Are you feeling held back as a mom and drowning in your own stress? What if I told you that you have the power within you to elicit change. Yes, you! Even with all your stressors and challenges as a mom of an autistic, you can make things happen. In this episode, I explore what holds you back and keeps you stuck in the continual cycle of stress. Find the full transcript for this episode at https://thrivingmomsofautistics.com/87Please share the podcast with other moms to help them grow in their autism journey. You can also do this by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. I appreciate you!Be sure to subscribe to the Thriving Moms of Autistics YouTube Channel!The #1 Thing Holding Autism Moms Back?There are many barriers to thriving in your autism journey. One of the biggest is your thoughts. We call them cognitive distortions. They are great disrupters that everyone experiences at some point in life. It is the human condition. Thankfully, it doesn’t have to be like this. Unfortunately, autism moms tend to carrier more stress and challenges. You can address these cognitive distortions and cultivate a growth mindset. Here are some examples of cognitive distortions:All-or-Nothing Thinking- This is also called back and one thinking. You see it one way or the other meaning that there is no in between. Overgeneralization- You expect that one negative outcome to happen repeatedly. Catastrophizing- Predicting or expecting the worst-case scenario.Personalization-  Blaming yourself for events beyond your control.Do any of these sound familiar? I know because I have been there too. I never want to go back to that. There is no magic wand to make these go away. It takes work and practice, but you can do this, and you are not alone!When you stay on the road of distorted thinking, your child learns this type of thinking, which escalates the struggles. Distortions keep you from seeing the situation clearly and finding solid solutions for challenges.Embracing the #1 Solution for Getting Stuck in Your Own HeadCarol Dweck studied this very thing for years. She posits that our beliefs about our abilities and intellect can be developed over time with effort. That’s right! We can learn and persevere. This is important because it can help us reduce stress, improve our problem solving skills, and increase our emotional resilience. In essence, we start believing that we can influence things for the better, creatively solve problems, and bounce back quicker. Sign me up, right!!!How Do Moms Achieve This and Grow in their Journey to Thrive?You can achieve a growth mindset when you practice:Self-Awareness- This is hard to do when it is hitting the fan and things are falling apart. It is important to explore what you are thinking about the situation and ask, “Is this true?” Challenge Your Negative Thinking- When you ask if it is true or not, look for evidence. What are the alternatives?Be Realistic- Are your goals realistic? If not, break them down into achievable goals. Be sure to celebrate small wins along the way.Grace- Show yourself some compassion and grace. The road is bumpy at times and will never be perfect, but you can achieve some calm if you stay the course mentally.Learn- Be open to learning for situations and recognize that you can use w

Hi Moms! Did you know that there is something special within you? Yes! There is! It is hard to see it sometimes because raising an autistic child keeps you busy. You might miss the very thing I am talking about!When I meet other moms raising autistic children, it’s like the angels are singing above. I have found another human being, who gets it. I want to be clear. Moms are not all the same. It is their experiences that are similar. With that said, moms have innate strengths that are specific to them. That means that they are born with and have the opportunity to build those strengths to overcome their challenges. In this episode, I explore those very individual strengths that moms possess that can be built over time to help them to help them be their best! Also, I explore connection with others to build their community. Find the full transcript for this episode at https://thrivingmomsofautistics.com/86Please share the podcast with other moms to help them grow in their autism journey. You can also do this by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. I appreciate you!Be sure to subscribe to the Thriving Moms of Autistics YouTube Channel!Why Are Strengths Important for Autism Moms?We moms are more than aware of the stress that we feel some days. It is part of the process. All moms feel stress, but moms of autistics experience unique challenges.With that said, I would do it all over again for my son. I suspect you would too! I think it is important to acknowledge moms stress in general. Let’s support one another as moms, who are raising neurotypical and/or neurodiverse children. As one of my t-shirts says, “Mommin ain't easy!I recognize mom stress in general. Let’s vow to help one another. So many don’t understand autism. But autism moms might forget about the general stressors that all moms experience overall. That can connect us on some level.When moms of neurodivergent children step up for moms of neurotypical children and vice versa, anything is possible. This bridges the gap! We come together and see beyond what we do not always understand. So how can moms with unique needs, support themselves and their child to overcome these challenges? Do you feel isolated because of the differences you face as a mom of an autistic child?Do you feel misunderstood?Do you feel like others do not relate?How can moms align with other moms to bridge that gap?You might express to others that you don’t have the answers for moms of neurotypicals but are here to listen to them.Also, you might ask for the same from them. Sometimes, people need time for it to click when exploring our differences. That is natural.I am here to tell you that these are common feelings! That is right! It is like anything in life. We have different experiences. The important thing is that we listen to others and try to understand their experiences. Try not to have automatic judgments about something you have not experienced before. It does not feel good when you are on the other side of this. I have to remind myself of this at times. It is our human nature. Listen to others and support them the best you can. You do not have to have the same experiences to do this. Sometimes, people just need someone to listen to them when they are struggling. That can be very powerful!Can’t we do that for one another?As a mom of your autistic, I have learned that my innate strength go a long way. As a psychologist for three decades, I recognize the importance of strengths that he

Hi Moms! I am willing to bet that every mom will resonate with today’s topic. No one leads a stress-free life. This is especially true for moms of autistics. That is why this topic is essential for your well-being and longevity. Moms want to be around for their kids long term. Constant stress creates wear and tear on your body and mind. In this episode, I explore the key to embracing your autism journey when things get so challenging. Find the full transcript for this episode at https://thrivingmomsofautistics.com/85Please share the podcast with other moms to help them grow in their autism journey. You can also do this by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. I appreciate you!Be sure to subscribe to the Thriving Moms of Autistics YouTube Channel!Moms of Autistics Commonly Experience Stress and ChallengesAll Moms experience challenges when raising children. The challenges of raising an autistic are different. While autism moms experience similar issues, their autism journeys differ. It’s not the same for everyone. Some moms experience elopements and meltdowns at home and in public. Others experience aggression and violent situations. In addition most moms worry about their child’s safety. I recall our son at age 3 running down the hallway as the church was letting out. Someone opened the door and he took a sharp turn out the door and across the parking lot.A man stopped his car and grabbed him as he approached the busy street. We were running behind him and calling for him as quickly and loudly as we could. I was about to have ankle surgery, which slowed me down at the time. It was horrifying.Some moms experience PTSD from repeated incidents. Our minds can only handle so much. This is why taking steps to improve our well-being is so important.Seeing your child suffer through a meltdown is so hard. We love them so much and want to help them so desperately. All of this takes a toll on moms. Not because they are weak, but because the challenges are significant at times.I do what I can to support my sons well-being. I don’t want him to feel badly about something he cannot help.It is an honor to be his mother and to be the one who gets to support him. I would do anything for him. That is another reason why our well-being is important as moms. When moms are doing well, that overflows to their children. We will never be perfect. There is no such thing. But we owe it to ourselves and our children to support our emotional health. Moms experience burnout, fatigue, frustration, stress, and often emotional rollercoasters. But that is only part of it.The Key to Moving from Surviving to Thriving in Your JourneyThe key to growth is your perception. How we view events is incredibly important. My advice is to get out of your head! I say that lovingly. Your thoughts about the world and yourself guide you, and that is what you manifest. You may have been thinking this way all your life, but you can turn it around. What a gift to yourself and your child!A growth mindset is a belief that one can develop their abilities and intelligence through hard work. Some struggle with a fixed mindset and assume abilities are static and unchanged.I talk often about stinking thinking, which gets you stuck. I’ve been there earlier in my life. I never want to go back. Research suggests that people with a growth mindset are happier and cope much better with stress. Let’s Cultivate a Growth Mindset Together as Moms!Here are some steps:Be kind to

Hi Moms! I am what you might call a late bloomer. I went to college and grad school then dove head first into my practice. I was married to my work for years. I have many life-long friends. Some chose to get married and have children right away. By the time I slowed down, married, and had my child, their kids were graduating from high school. I remember what it was like when we got a minute to catch up on the phone and they were constantly interrupted. Everyone wanted a piece of mom. I didn’t fully understand that then, but I do now that I’m a mom. So, why am I telling you this? I didn’t get it initially because I had never had that experience. How many times have you looked back and realized you didn’t fully understand a situation?We have all had those moments. So shouldn’t we show some grace to those who didn’t fully understand what we were experiencing at the time?Is it possible to deal with misunderstandings and maintain our friendships with those who do not get autism?In this episode, I explore navigating isolation, those awkward moments, and when others don’t understand autism. Find the full transcript for this episode at https://thrivingmomsofautistics.com/84Please share the podcast with other moms to help them grow in their autism journey. You can also do this by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. I appreciate you!Also, check out the Thriving Moms of Autistics YouTube Channel and hit subscribe!Why Do Some People Struggle with Understanding a Mom’s Autism Journey and Can That Be Changed?Moms of autistic children often report feeling isolated, especially in the beginning. It is challenging for many reasons. Others don’t understand why you handle situations with your child differently or why your child requires different parenting strategies. For example, spanking my child would increase the behaviors because he is sensory seeking. Many neurotypicals don’t get that.As human beings, we mentally organize information that we know about the world based on our experiences. These are known as schemas, which help us interpret new information. As human beings, we can learn and adapt to new information. Unfortunately, we try to fit new information into our existing schemas, which leads to misunderstanding when it doesn’t fit as we think it should.  Can we learn to understand the challenges of others? Of course we can! We learn by watching others as they experience challenges when we are open to it and when we move beyond our existing schemas.I struggled with all the interruptions when I was trying to catch up with my long-time friends. My journey was different from theirs, but I genuinely wanted to know how they were doing and how I could support them.Having children at that time was completely foreign to me. But I had great empathy for others, and that bridged the gap between my experiences and the experiences of others. I wanted to view the world through their lens to better understand their perspective. Just because someone doesn’t get autism at this time doesn’t mean that they won’t learn. So how do you build your supportive community in the meantime?I still have those life-long friends. They are as supportive as they can be. Now, will there be some that take their lack of understanding to a toxic level? Absolutely! I no longer surround myself with those people. Achieving the Goal of Gaining a Supportive Community for Autism MomsThe goal is to build a healthy, supportive community that you can count on during challenges and celebrate the victories with.&

Hi Moms! Setting boundaries can be really complicated, but they are necessary. Your mind might be flooded with past experiences of getting unsolicited advice from a well-meaning person, the stares and judgment during a meltdown in the public place, or the family member, who says, “Oh, let them” because they aren’t aware of the consequences it might have for an autistic child. Is it possible to confidently navigate these situations and maintain our own sanity while keeping our child safe?In this episode, I explore your options when it comes to boundaries. Find the full transcript for this episode at https://thrivingmomsofautistics.com/83Please share the podcast with other moms to help them grow in their autism journey. You can also do this by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. I appreciate you!Also, check out the Thriving Moms of Autistics YouTube Channel and hit subscribe!When Setting Boundaries Feels Impossible for Moms of Autistics Here are some real life examples of such events that moms commonly experience. When a non-verbal child gets overwhelmed in crowds and a child keeps pushing them to play with them, how do they let you know what they need? It is hard for all of us to deal with someone, who won’t take “no” for an answer or doesn’t understand that the child cannot verbally communicate.Navigating public or family holidays when your child is sensitive to loud noises, especially July Fourth. Some people shrug it off and don’t want to listen. I live in a city neighborhood that is extremely loud. I deal with this frustration daily. There are fireworks, loud music, sirens, yelling, gun fire, etc. We plan for sirens, barking, construction noises, but it is frustrating when others refuse to modify their music or follow the law in general. As a mom, I have been teaching others about how noise impacts autistics. Unfortunately, we are dealing with people who lack concern for other human beings. That is why they are engaging in these behaviors to begin with. Moving to the country is not an option for us right now, but it is something that we are working toward. Moms often feel powerless in many of these situations. Moms Sometimes Don’t Set Boundaries for the Very Reasons They Should be Setting BoundariesHere are some examples of what keep us from boundary setting:People pleasing - Confrontation can be hard, especially in social situations. Unfair Judgment Unsolicited AdvicePressure to ConformRefusal to UnderstandFeeling Overwhelmed How Autism Moms Can Gain Back Power During These Common Challenges and Strengthen the Boundaries They SetWhen you set boundaries with others, you need to do the following:Know your audience - You know when someone is likely to hear your message or not. If they aren’t, you are welcome to simply state, “The music is pretty loud. Davey needs some quiet time right now. Thank you for understanding.” They will choose to help or not. Accept their decision and move on. You might need to use another intervention. You are your child’s advocate first!Don’t intervene until you are calm. Be calm and firm in your approach. As they say, “You catch more flies with honey than you do vinegar!”If you are feeling uncertain about your approach, practice first. You can role-play with someone. Additional insight is often helpful. Some say, “Two heads are better than one!” Be assertive! That is not the same as being aggres

Hi Moms! The topic today is stress. You may have heard about it. It’s a doozy! In this episode, we explore the big stress that moms of autistics experience, the importance of recognizing it, and tips for managing it.Find the full transcript for this episode at https://thrivingmomsofautistics.com/82Please share the podcast with other moms to help them grow in their autism journey. You can also do this by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. I appreciate you!Also, check out the Thriving Moms of Autistics YouTube Channel and hit subscribe!Importance of Catching the Signs of Stress Early for Autism Moms When we recognize the precursors, we can pivot in stressful situations more easily. Let’s start with recognizing stress in our child. When our child is out of sorts, that is hard for us to see, but it is inevitable. Our reaction to that is important, so we should increase awareness of these precursors. It is different for every child, but commonly, children will increase stimming (rocking, pacing, etc.), show increased irritability or aggression, experiencing transitions or changes, have physical symptoms (headache, stomach ache, etc.), or at the onset of the latest bug going around.When these things begin, stress is not far behind. Autism moms are planners. We often stay a step ahead of things, but sometimes that isn’t the case. Or we miscalculate because we are human after all. Let’s shift to recognizing stress in ourselves. Every mom experiences stress differently. What are your typical signs that you are overloaded?You might feel on edge, have a hard time focusing, feel tired, toss and turn at night, feel aches in your body, have a shorter fuse, or struggle to cope. Did someone out there say, “That’s normal or That’s everyday?” If that is the case, it is so important for you to hear this. Stress takes such a toll on your body. Moms of autistics strive to be around for their children. Constant high stress can take years off of you. You definitely don’t want that.Here are some tips for managing your stress level:Have a go-to stash for when your child starts to escalate or show signs of distress. Have one in the car, a to-go bag, and in various places in the house. The kitchen is a good place. It is hard to get away when you are cooking. Include sensory items and social stories that include steps for calming.Creatively carve out 15-minutes a day for a self-care activity to recharge when you can. It’s more possible than you think. Ask for help when needed. Creating a community of support feels overwhelming, but it can be done over time.I help moms 1:1 in the Thrive VIP program develop community and self-care plans for their needs. Check it out on www.thriving moms of autistic.com and click Work with Christina for more.Flip the switch! Challenges weigh us down. When we recognize potential stressors, notice your body and your thoughts. Now, ditch the stinken thinken and grow your mindset. It can be difficult to switch gears like this. It isn’t done overnight and takes practice. I explore this in the Thrive VIP program as well. Add this podcast to your resources AKA Mom Toolbox. Check out previous episodes for more ideas to tackle stress. You have so many strengths, and you are worthy of self-care! I hope this helps!I look forward to our time together next week!

Hi Moms! You pour your heart and soul into raising your child, but this often leaves you running on fumes. So, it’s important to reduce your stress the best you can. Having a village to support you is one of the best ways to de-stress. Unfortunately, so many moms don’t have that. It can be overwhelming to even think about it. As moms it feels like it is just one more thing on our list. I don’t want you to be like me and wait until you have no other choice. That is hard. I don’t want that for you. In this episode, I help you prepare for building your supportive village and give you tips to get started.Find the full transcript for this episode at https://thrivingmomsofautistics.com/81Please share the podcast with other moms to help them grow in their autism journey. You can also do this by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. I appreciate you!Also, check out the Thriving Moms of Autistics YouTube Channel and hit subscribe!How Moms of Autistics Can Prepare for the Task of Building CommunityIt doesn’t seem like that big of deal to others, but for autism moms.. Well, we are teetering. The thought of one more thing can really stress us out. So, let’s talk about lightening your load and reducing stress to prepare you. Here are some ways to reduce stress and prepare:Acknowledge your feelings and fears. Don’t hide from them or ignore them. That ultimately makes it worse. It adds more to your plate in the end. You don’t need that!Prioritize your self-care. When you prepare to build your support system, that is self-care AND family-care. Everyone benefits!Be Mindful. You can do this by simply taking a moment to prepare your nervous system and taking deep breaths. I know this sounds cliche, but it makes a difference. When I am overwhelmed, I do not breathe properly, which impacts my oxygen intake. As a result, I don’t think as clearly. This is more simple than you think. You can breathe in for 4, hold for 4, exhale for 5, hold for 2, and repeat until you are in a better place. Identify stress triggers related to building support. This might be your experiences with others, who did not understand autism. It might seem hard to find others who get it, so why bother, right? No! There are people who get it. I promise. When you are aware of your triggers, you can shift away from them more quickly. Be realistic. Sometimes, we want those who have hurt us in the past to be on our journey with us. As humans we need relationships. However, it is okay to recognize that that one person might never be what we need them to be. This is a hard fact of life. There are others, who are willing to be a gift to us and share in our celebrations and our sorrows. You are prepared to build your autism community, now what?In Episode 80, I explored building a strong community. Here are some tips to get you started now that you are mentally prepared for the task.3) Consider your online and local options that already exist. I’ve mentioned Facebook groups for special needs. You might have some local meet-ups too. I recognize there is a difference between online and face to face. I teach the psychology of social media. We often explore how people are willing to say things online that they would never face-to-face. Just keep these things in mind. Not everyone will be your cup of tea and vice versa. That’s okay. Keep scrolling. 4) Ask your spouse or partner about their vision for your support system. I

Hi Moms! I don’t think you can summarize autism parenting in just one word. It’s such a blend of amazing, challenging, and isolating. There is so much uncertainty. However, you don’t have to go through this alone.There are so many demands. It can feel overwhelming! In this episode, we explore the beauty of community and finding others who get it!Find the full transcript for this episode at https://thrivingmomsofautistics.com/80Please share the podcast with other moms to help them grow in their autism journey. You can also do this by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. I appreciate you!Also, check out the Thriving Moms of Autistics YouTube Channel and hit subscribe!Why Community is Essential in Your Autism JourneyThe isolation starts even before the diagnosis. Some notice the differences, while others do what they can to deny them and make you believe the differences don’t exist or are not an issue. Finding others who get the multiple therapy appointments, the public meltdowns, and so much more is priceless. I’ve shared some of my story in the past of how everything changed when I developed my community. Notice I said developed and not found. That is because your supportive community is developed over time and is not something that just appears. I never thought I would hear the words, “I remember when my child did that.” I never thought I would have others to share strategies with. Oh, and when we are in public together, watch out world! We can handle anything that comes our way. It is a relief having a safe space to vent, where others don’t look at you like you have three heads. We celebrate victories together, and boy can we celebrate! The little things aren’t so little. Finding Community Takes Time for Moms of AutisticsYou’ve already started developing your community. We all have therapists and case managers. Although this is a very small part of your community, it is a start. Nearly everyone is on social media. Facebook has many special needs community groups. Most of us are in these groups already. Again, this is a very small segment of your community. As you continue to build your community, here are some tips for building a strong, supportive community.It’s easy to place others at arm's length. We endure a lot of unfair judgment from others. It’s okay to be open and authentic when sharing with others, who get your struggles and understand your celebrations. Since every autism journey is different, be respectful and supportive of others, even if you don’t fully understand. Meet people where they are at. We appreciate when others do this for us.Sometimes others don’t need advice or a quick fix. The greatest gift you can give them is to actively listen to them. Sometimes that is all they want, and that is okay. It is wonderful to help one another, who have been in a similar boat. We can learn so much from one another. It is just as important to accept help from others. It’s time to get off the island and start building your community and ease your burden. Let’s inspire and empower one another! I dedicate this episode to my small group. You know who you are, and I love and cherish you!I look forward to our time together next week!

Hi Moms! Let’s talk about unleashing what's good within you. Everyone has something good within them. Many aren’t always aware of it, especially when things have gone so wrong and are so hard. Sometimes we just feel so defeated that we can’t fathom having such power within ourselves. Our mindset is a big part of that, but that is another episode.In this episode, we will explore how identifying your strengths helps you develop your inner superpower, which is your secret weapon to tackling challenges successfully.So get ready because this is a gamechanger!Find the full transcript for this episode at https://thrivingmomsofautistics.com/79Please share the podcast with other moms to help them grow in their autism journey. You can also do this by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. I appreciate you!Also, check out the Thriving Moms of Autistics YouTube Channel and hit subscribe!When Autism Moms Meet Others Where They Are at But Don’t Do the Same for ThemselvesAs moms of autistics, we experience a lot of demands, behavioral challenges, judgmental stares, and significant stress. It’s exhausting!We often hear, “You are so strong!” Many times moms feel overwhelmed by those statements. We experience the full brunt of a situation. All of the things! So, it’s easier for someone else to acknowledge the good parts. However, it is not as easy for those with the full experience. The good, the bad, the ugly…It’s okay to acknowledge your strength in the unimaginable situations that you endure. Your very strength was part of what helped you get to the other side of it after all. Tapping into those strengths is what gets you through the inevitable challenges. It is key when shifting from surviving to thriving. So when others say, “You’re so strong,” you might consider shifting your thoughts to, “It’s great that you used x strength in this situation. Why? Because what you did was essential in the process for the positive outcome. We frown upon being strong, but why would we frown upon using the tools in our mom toolbox to overcome challenges? More importantly, we don’t want to suffer through it, nor do we want our children to suffer through it.I’m not mad when my husband puts something together with his tools when I’ve ordered something from Amazon that is going to make my life easier. That is what tools are for! A moms tool box is no different.Especially, when it is a tool that is a part of who we are. It’s innate. We all have strengths. We just develop them over time. Moms often respond with “I didn’t have a choice.” But we all have choices. In fact, moms make the choice to learn more about their strengths, grow them, and use them. I wanted to share this because moms don’t always acknowledge how much they truly do in their journey. How much they do impact their children and their own family for the better. It is okay to acknowledge that, and it is healthy to do so. Unveiling Strengths of Moms of Autistics is Not as Easy As One Thinks. Here Are Some Strategies:While working with individuals from all walks of life over the last 30 years, I have found that one of the most difficult questions to ask is, “What are your strengths,” or “What do you do well?”I get it! That is very common. Since we all have strengths, which are imperative to our success in life, I have incorporated this in the 4 month Thrive VIP program, podcast, and other services that are coming soon.Strengths are that important!One of the barriers is that it feels uncomfor

Episode TranscriptHi Moms! Lately, I’ve been hearing from a lot of moms that they have felt so unsettled lately. They’ve expressed ongoing anxiety or a sense of doom. I get it. I’ve had these same feelings. As moms of autistics, we work extra hard to protect our children from the unique challenges they face on top of typical child-related challenges. We are surrounded by daily horror stories from all corners of the world. Seasoned therapists often experience PTSD from repeatedly hearing stories over the years of trauma and devastation. Think about that for a minute. There is a lot going on around the world right now. When you have experienced extraordinary, repeated situations in your own life, you are more likely to feel the heaviness of what others are experiencing around you. In this episode, I explore ways to protect yourself from overwhelming circumstances to minimize the long-term effects on you and your child.Find the full transcript for this episode at http://thrivingmomsofautistics.com/78Please share the podcast with other moms to help them grow in their autism journey. You can also do this by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. I appreciate you!Navigating the Chaos as an Autism MomI’m just going to jump right into this today. Because we all know why this is important, right? So, I don’t need to examine that.Being surrounded by so much that is out of one’s control and can take a toll on anyone. No one is exempt from that. You know yourself best. However, you might miss key warning signs if you’re not paying close attention. It’s a chaotic time after all. Moms of autistics juggle a lot of balls day after day. One might think it’s impossible to catch everything as a result. However, autism moms tend to have a heightened sense of awareness that works in everyone’s favor. Unfortunately, they tend to place themselves at the end of the line when it comes to attention. Yes, I’m talking about you! We all have done it.Tips for Autism Moms to Achieve PeaceTip #1 Set Boundaries: Moms of autistics lead pretty structured lives given the uncertainty of our days. We live in a technological era. The news is everywhere. It is hard to get away from it. Sometimes, you must unplug. I keep my phone on all the time when I am not with my son in case his teachers or therapists need me. Like you, I can never completely unplug. But I can decide what I read and watch. This might mean you need to take a break from the news. That is a trigger waiting to happen. Nothing good comes from the news usually. It is good to be informed to some extent, but it can have a big impact on you with repeated exposure. This includes social media. Many get their news through social media. Also, it is not a realistic place. I think of it as wonderland, or the land of what others want you to see. I can’t tell you how many people have told me they took a break from social media for a few days and the difference it made in their lives.I use social media for marketing but can definitely minimize my use on a daily basis. Here is a challenge for the week to come. Are you ready? Track how often and how long you are on social media for a 2–3-day period. You might be surprised by the results. Tip #2 Be Mindful of Your Energy Source: Have you ever heard of garbage in garbage out? What you put into your body matters. Our food and drink options serve as an energy source for our bodies. I had a meeting earlier today with a friend developing a business about gut hea

Hi Moms! One of the many things we have in common are meltdowns. Even the mention of meltdowns likely elicits some physical or emotional response. I get it!In this episode, we come together in solidarity to explore ways to navigate meltdowns to achieve success in our autism journey.Find the full transcript for this episode at https://thrivingmomsofautistics.com/77Please share the podcast with other moms to help them grow in their autism journey. You can also do this by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. I appreciate you!Also, check out the Thriving Moms of Autistics YouTube Channel and hit subscribe!Why is a mindset shift so important for moms when dealing with meltdowns?When inevitable meltdowns occur, the world around us unravels and emotions take center stage. It gets chaotic and so much is going on. Part of this is out of our control. So much so, it is difficult to manage what is within our control. But, it is possible!Many times people confuse meltdowns with tantrums, but there is a big difference. Meltdowns are sensory driven. When there is a sensory overload and children become frustrated and struggle with communication barriers, it’s like a boiling pot of water that gets away from you quickly. Our reaction to that is key! When we react with frustration, their behavior exacerbates and worsens because they have little to no control over themselves at that moment. But meltdowns as scary as they are, are actually opportunities for learning and growing. BUT, we must shift and see them as growth opportunities. If we stay in a state of terror and anxiety over what our child is experiencing, we cannot help them and the meltdown is prolonged. So, by shifting our mindset, we can not only navigate meltdowns more effectively but can also help our child thrive. Who is onboard with that!Long Term Benefits for Autism Moms, Who Shift Their MindsetThere are long term benefits to shifting your mindset in the midst of a meltdown. Now, this is something that takes practice. It’s not just something you start doing consistently over night.When we are calm and supportive, we teach our child healthy coping skills.  Over time, this will carry over and be a tool in their own toolbox. Also, they feel loved and understood. When they experience meltdowns, they experience shame and their self-esteem takes a hit. So, our reaction builds trust and strengthens our bond with them.Tips for How Autism Moms Can Shift Their MindsetMove from Judgement to Understanding "What's causing this meltdown?" Is it sensory overload? A change in routine? We empathetically respond to our child when we understand.Move From "Fixing" to "Supporting." The child is overwhelmed, not broken. Autistic children do not need to be fixed. Create a safe space, rather than fixing the child.Meltdowns are temporary. Take a deep breath, and remind yourself this too shall pass. Notice how you feel when it seems like something is never ending.A shift in mindset helps us stay calm and we become a safe haven for our child. They feel supported. And they develop much needed skills to navigate their emotions in the future.You are not alone in your journey. I look forward to our time together next week!

Hi Moms! Are you tired? Feeling like you are drowning? I get it! Are there things you can do to tackle this problem? Of course, there are! But it’s not that easy, right?In this episode, we break down some of those barriers to getting your needs met and still take care of the needs of your child. That’s right! You can do both!Find the full transcript for this episode at https://thrivingmomsofautistics.com/76Please share the podcast with other moms to help them grow in their autism journey. You can also do this by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. I appreciate you!Also, check out the Thriving Moms of Autistics YouTube Channel and hit subscribe!Breaking Down the Barriers to Achieving Self-Care for Moms of AutisticsIt’s not uncommon for autism moms to shoot for the moon trying to handle everything at once and more. Some tasks just have to be done.Sometimes it feels like you keep going and going and going… much like the Energizer Bunny.Is that really necessary? It feels like it is. Unfortunately, moms have a hard time slowing down to even consider breaking down these barriers and getting creative with our self-care. So, why is that? Who has the time? Moms are often afraid to slow down for fear they will drop the ball. They are busy managing appointments, meltdowns, making an additional meal for their child’s needs,etc.Who has the energy? Running around all day, staying ahead of the game in preparation for the unexpected, and managing behaviors is exhausting! Who has the money? Our finances and resources are often tied up in the high cost of raising an autistic child. There is little left for anything else. Who has the support? Commonly, moms are isolated, have no-one to watch their child, or struggle with support in general. Last, but not least… Guilt! We are not used to taking time for ourselves. The common belief is that if we take time to care for ourselves, we are neglecting our child. How Moms Can Shift From Burnout to Bliss?What do you have to lose by taking time for self-care? The real question is what will you lose if you don’t? Self-care is that important! Engaging in self-care is caring for your child. Not only will you reap the rewards, they will too. There are many benefits, but first let's break down the barriers.Time- Everyone has the same amount of time in the day. We use our time differently.Energy-When you care for yourself and are mindful of sleep and nutrition, it makes such a difference.Support-Start building a community now. It takes time, so get started. Guilt-When you shift your mindset and recognize that self-care is for you and your child, you better understand that it is not selfish.Some benefits for engaging in self-care include:Reduce Stress- our children are sponges and our stress and anxiety rubs off on them.Improve Well-Being- When we are happier and optimistic, our child is too.Increase Patience- This goes a long way when dealing with difficult behaviors, such as meltdowns. How we respond matters more than we know. It sends signals for how our child will respond next. It’s a chain reaction!Improve Your Relationship with Your Child & Others- We are much more pleasant to be around.Enhance ResilienceImprove Coping SkillsI work with moms 1:1 on developing an individualized plan for getting creative with self-care in my Thrive VIP Program.

Hi Moms! Parenting is one of the most difficult jobs there is. All moms have similar challenges along the way, but raising an autistic involves another level of need that others don’t always understand.When this happens, moms don’t feel supported and understood. In this episode, I explore the common pressures moms experience that impact their own well-being and tips to set boundaries with others.Find the full transcript for this episode at https://thrivingmomsofautistics.com/75Please share the podcast with other moms to help them grow in their autism journey. You can also do this by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. I appreciate you!Also, check out the Thriving Moms of Autistics YouTube Channel and hit subscribe!How Did We Get to a Place Where Autism Moms Feel So Unsupported?Early on, moms are trying to navigate the unique needs of an autistic child and how to best meet those needs.This might be their first child or they might have only neurotypical children. If so, the journey is quite different. Although I had been a family therapist for many years, I had little experience with babies and toddlers. I was an only child and didn’t have my son until I was 41. I had a lot to learn about babies and toddlers. My parents had passed away, so I had to figure it out on my own. Surprisingly, it came naturally to me. Unfortunately, I missed some of the common milestones that he should have been meeting. Some moms from my neurotypical mom group said it was no big deal. When it came time to see an ENT, my peers could not believe they were concerned about autism and requesting an evaluation.I have noticed that this is common and that others feel very uncomfortable with the idea of autism. So, they lean into their denial. It doesn’t have to be that way. I talk about this often. Autism is not a dirty word. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Moms and their children should feel empowered on their journey. These misconceptions and refusal to understand are why so many feel less than, and THAT is a tragedy!Common Struggles Moms of Autistics ExperienceI just explored how moms often feel unheard and unsupported. Moms also struggle with feeling judged leading to isolation. Parents often stay away from places that are not autism friendly, which is most places. The world has yet to catch up understanding autism.This might be play groups, church, family member’s homes, and more. We have played musical chairs with churches. Family members from the other side of the family have been resistant to understanding our son’s needs. Sadly, this is what families experience. I have a friend that noticed that she and her husband had a hard time attending church service because there was no one to watch their daughter. She could not find a nearby church with a special needs ministry, so she started one herself. Now, they have a full time ministry.Sometimes moms experience an invalidation of their experiences. This is all too common. Unsolicited advice and inferring that a mom is doing something wrong when you don’t fully understand yourself, is not okay.Most people are trying to help and understand. Advice is common in our society. We try to fix things. Attuning others by simply listening to them and validating their emotions goes a long way. Constantly explaining yourself or fighting to advocate for your child is exhausting. How Do Moms of Autistics Release Themselves From Taking on Other’s Misconceptions and Need to Help?Here are practical 3 tips to

Hi Moms! Are you feeling run down? Like you don’t have much more to give? We’ve all been there. The good news is that you don’t have to stay there. In this episode, I explore how to recognize when you are nearing that place where you get bogged down in that dark hole of chaos and exhaustion, and tips to move out of that very place.Find the full transcript for this episode at https://thrivingmomsofautistics.com/74Please share the podcast with other moms to help them grow in their autism journey. You can also do this by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. I appreciate you!Also, check out the Thriving Moms of Autistics YouTube Channel and hit subscribe!How Can Moms of Autistics Get Ahead of the Breaking Point?Sometimes moms live in constant stress and don’t even realize they are about to crash and burn because it’s what they know.With that said, it’s good to get out ahead of it. The best way to do that is to create awareness. I often say that awareness is core to just about everything. It is key to identifying the problem so you can do something about it. But awareness goes much deeper in this case. It is important to figure out what you need. Oftentimes when we are stressed out, we know that the stress is impacting us but not necessarily to what extent. We feel it from head to toe and it feels so big. How Autism Moms Can Breaking Down the Barriers to Getting Out of the Deep Fog of StressIt’s important to pay attention to what our body and mind are telling us. There are signals that we miss because we are so enmeshed in the challenges of raising our child. Stress impacts us all differently. However, there are 3 common ways we are affected. 1) Physical - Moms often report headaches, tense muscles, feeling drained due to a lack of sleep and energy. I can always tell when I am getting super stressed when the muscles in my neck and shoulders tighten up. It literally feels like the weight of the world is on my shoulders. What are your physical signs of ongoing stress?2) Mind - Moms often report feeling frustrated and anxious. It’s common to have a shorter fuse and feel overwhelmed more quickly. 3) Spirit - What brought you joy before becoming a mom? Do you feel disconnected from those things? Breaking Down Your Previous Experiences Prior to MotherhoodHere are some activities to explore what has been a good fit for you in the past. Consider the following:When did you feel your best? What were you doing and who were you with?Imagine your ideal “me time.” What was that like?Consider your past self-care. What worked? What didn’t? Tips for Tip #1 - When you feel overwhelmed, that is a sign you need to develop a supportive community. It’s not easy to create, but I help moms with this in my Thrive VIP Program. Check out www.thrivingmomsofautistics.comTip#2 - Embrace your imperfections. I have always been a big perfectionist and it never ends well! This is where we get caught up in how we might not be enough or feel that we are failing. It is easy to get stuck in that thinking. With that said, you ARE enough! You continue to grow and that is what matters. We ALL are constantly growing. Don’t get swallowed in the dark hole of social media. That isn’t real. People struggle. They have ups and downs. Granted it is for different reasons, but it is the normal.