Identifying Your Upper Limits

Captivate & Close

Jan 31 2023 • 20 mins

As humans, we all have a unique set of perceived limitations. Anytime you try to reach for something beyond those limitations, you will experience a set of challenges that will either keep you where you are or push you to your next level.

In this episode, Kinsey shares about the four core hidden barriers that Gay Hendricks discusses in relation to your Upper Limit which he talks about in his book, ‘The Big Leap’.

At the end of this podcast, you will be able to see where you’re running up against your Upper Limit and how you can stop the pattern of self-sabotaging (even if you don’t think you’re self-sabotaging).

(Reference: The Big Leap, book by Gay Hendricks)

Do not miss these highlights:

00:45 One year older and wiser! HAPPY BIRTHDAY, KINSEY! Ready to soak in a more profound level, the gratitude, the joy, and the fulfillment ahead.

02:11 On the other side of that wisdom is a feeling of so much more to learn.

02:21 Then the more that you learn, the more that you realize that there's so much that you don't know.

02:31 Let’s talk about your “upper limit” and the different concepts or methods of this.

02:50 Within the context of an identity crisis, it is the idea of separating from a former version of yourself and stepping into a new one.

03:08 A lot of times when we have to bust through the other side of that, it requires you to also bust through an “upper limit.”

03:23 It's this perceived limitation that is what keeps people stuck.

03:44 As you evolve as an entrepreneur, as a woman, you're going to notice these breakdowns to breakthroughs, and it's all related to these upper limits.

04:01 The book “The Big Leap” by Gay Hendrick, is so good at talking about the “upper limit.”

04:16 This whole concept that we basically self-sabotage because there's this limitation that exists whether it's subconsciously or consciously

04:59 What Gay Hendricks does is actually talk out the four cores of “upper limits”

05:08 One of these is ultimately going to continue to keep you below the limit.

06:15 Constraints are important. They create discipline, they create focus, and create parameters for us.

06:33 The four different types of “upper limits,” will help you think about what is your upper limit.

06:52 A correlation to one of these barriers, he calls them the “hidden barrier,” which is basically an upper limit that you can't necessarily see.

07:27 It'll be helpful for you, once you actually understand and become aware of it, it's so liberating.

07:51 The whole book is about these patterns, what to do, and how to move through them. So go on and read the book.

08:03 The first “hidden barrier” that he talks about, is this barrier that's basically feeling fundamentally flawed.

08:12 It's something that is related to you not feeling capable of doing the thing, or that you're missing something.

08:35 It is the worst thought to have because it just remains an open loop in your brain.

09:08 The other thing that he notes is the related fear that comes with you making a full commitment to living in your full zone of genius that you will likely fail.

10:00 The second barrier that he addresses here is disloyalty and abandonment.

10:27 This is common when people are starting to see their lives as extraordinary, above the average.

11:15 If there's really no acknowledgment of expansion, and you have this idea that if I grow, if I am successful, it means that I'm leaving people behind.

12:05 If it is a very deep-seated or deep-rooted belief in you, it will come up and basically become your limitation.

12:34 The third “hidden barrier” is this belief that more success brings a...