Dad Still Standing

Liam Preston & Matt Dearsley

🏆 Winner of the Best Parenting Podcast of the Year - British Podcast Awards. Two dads discussing baby loss, coping with life, and working their way through grief. In the aftermath of losing babies, Liam and Matt found there was no support specifically aimed at dads to help them process their grief, prepare for what was to come next, and help them to support their partners. So, they've teamed up to create this podcast for other dads (and families) which shows a bereaved father's perspective and provides the tools to help them on their journey with grief. If you would like to contact us you can do so via our social media pages (@dadstillstanding) or email dadstillstandingpodcast@gmail.com. read less
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Episodes

The Guilt of Happiness
Apr 26 2024
The Guilt of Happiness
In this episode, the dads delve into the complex emotions that come with feeling happiness after experiencing a profound loss. Many of us grapple with guilt when moments of joy peek through our grief - wondering if it's okay to feel happy and questioning what it means about our mourning. We explore not only the personal dimension of this guilt but also how perceptions—both our own and those of people around us—shape these feelings. Matt and Liam discuss the sources of this guilt, whether it is internal expectations or external pressures, and how to understand the emotional landscape that tells us it might be too soon or somehow disrespectful to find joy in life again. Through this conversation, we aim to offer perspectives that help normalise these feelings as a part of the healing process, providing comfort and understanding to anyone navigating life after loss. Join us as we break down these barriers, encouraging a dialogue about emotional honesty and the right to reclaim joy without reservation. Please remember to subscribe or follow the podcast so it lands in your inbox as soon as a new episode drops. If you could write a review or rate the pod that would be awesome.  If you’d like to get in touch with the show please message us on Instagram or Facebook and for our socials search @dadstillstanding. You can also email the show dadstillstandingpodcast@gmail.com. 'Dad Still Standing' is a podcast about baby loss and grief and is a Factory Originals production.
Supportive Partners
Feb 23 2024
Supportive Partners
In this episode of Dad Still Standing, the dads explore the crucial roles of giving and receiving support within a partnership after the loss of a child. They have contributions from four listeners, each with their own insights into what it truly means to be a supportive partner during the most challenging times. Through their personal journies, the dads discuss the actions and gestures that have made a difference in their partners' lives, reflecting on the importance of being a steadfast source of comfort and understanding. They candidly reveal the lessons learned from their attempts to provide support, including the moments they wish they could have approached differently. The conversation also delves into the experiences of receiving support, highlighting the significance of empathy, patience, and the delicate balance of navigating two individual grief paths within a single relationship. Our guests share both heartwarming and difficult experiences of support from their partners, offering a raw look at the complexities of grieving together yet apart. This episode is an invitation to all listening to consider the dynamics of their relationships in the face of grief. It's a discussion about growth, love, and the continuous effort to understand and be understood by one's partner. Whether you're seeking to be a better source of support or wishing to communicate your own needs more effectively, this episode offers perspectives, encouragement, and a reminder that you're not alone in this journey. Please remember to subscribe or follow the podcast so it lands in your inbox as soon as a new episode drops. If you could write a review or rate the pod that would be awesome.  If you’d like to get in touch with the show please message us on Instagram or Facebook and for our socials search @dadstillstanding. You can also email the show dadstillstandingpodcast@gmail.com. 'Dad Still Standing' is a podcast about baby loss and grief and is a Factory Originals production.
Escaping the Rut
Oct 14 2023
Escaping the Rut
In this episode, the dads get real about the emotional ups and downs that come with losing a baby. And the sometimes never-ending rut that feels impossible to escape. They explain that grief isn't just about feeling sad; it's a mix of emotions that can make you feel physically tired or mentally stuck.  The dads then offer some practical advice for getting through the hardest days. They stress the importance of acknowledging how you're feeling instead of bottling it up, and share tips on finding professionals like counsellors who can help specifically with the loss of a baby.  They also touch on the benefits of exercise and mindfulness as ways to help your mental health - Matt even attempts it live, before Liam ruins it 🤣 Finally, they chat about finding a group of other dads or trusted friends to talk to, because speaking openly with people who understand can make a world of difference. But before all that, they can't help themselves discussing the British Podcast Award Win...so, strap yourselves in for that one...as it comes thick and fast! If you're a dad dealing with the painful loss of a baby, or you know someone who is, this episode is packed with helpful advice, support, and ways to take steps forward, even when it feels impossible. The dads would love you to follow the podcast or subscribe wherever you get it, and of course, leave a review.  If you’d like to get in touch with the show please message on Instagram or Facebook and for our socials search @dadstillstanding. You can also email the show dadstillstandingpodcast@gmail.com. 'Dad Still Standing' is a podcast about baby loss and grief and is a Factory Originals production.
Saving Babies’ Lives
Nov 1 2022
Saving Babies’ Lives
For some, the terrible fate of our babies death was inevitable. For many others, our tragedies avoidable. Medical science and our understanding of the human body has come on leaps and bounds; with research at the very core of how we improve patient care and provide the right advice throughout a pregnancy. However, despite an advancement in research there is still so much unknown about why and how our babies die. In this week’s episode Matt & Liam talk to Professor Alex Heazell, Senior Clinical Lecturer in Obstetrics and Director of Tommy’s Stillbirth Research Centre - the Rainbow Clinic - at St Mary’s Hospital in Manchester, UK.  The Rainbow Clinic provides specialist care for women who have suffered a previous stillbirth or neonatal death with the aim of ensuring that it doesn’t happen again in future pregnancies. This episode explores what the latest developments in baby loss research are; whether all losses are preventable; what each of us can do to support the cause; and delves a little into Prof Heazell’s background asking the question how does someone get into the world of saving babies’ lives. You can follow Prof Heazell on Twitter: @MCR_SB_Research If you’d like to reach out to the show please message on Instagram or Facebook and for our socials search @dadstillstanding. You can also email the show dadstillstandingpodcast@gmail.com. 'Dad Still Standing' is a Factory Originals production.