Two Pour Spirits

Kyle David Bennett

A Conversation about Cocktails, Communion, and the Church with Kyle David Bennett, Ph.D. and Chris Cimorelli, Ph.D., Co-Founders of Project : Neighbor

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The Four Ps: Picking the Proper Place

The Four Ps: Picking the Proper Place

Chris and Kyle continue in their four-part series on the "Four Ps of Disagreement." In this episode, they chat about the obvious: If you can't hear people, you can't disagree with them. But also, if you have to stand for two hours. If the thermostat is turned up to eighty degrees. If the walls are painted pink. If grizzly bear sightings are a possibility. It's a no-go. Disagreement will not be achieved. Because place matters. The room has to be conducive to the heat of the argument. It has to be comfortable when things get uncomfortable. It can't be a distraction. So we have to be wise as serpents in picking where to disagree so that we can be innocent as doves when the stuffing hits the fan. Join Chris and Kyle as they discuss the most magnificent, incredibly terrible, and just plain stupid places to start, continue, and end an argument. Disagreers, take note.

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The Four Ps: Picking the Proper Place

The Four Ps: Picking the Proper Place

Chris and Kyle continue in their four-part series on the "Four Ps of Disagreement." In this episode, they chat about the obvious: If you can't hear people, you can't disagree with them. But also, if you have to stand for two hours. If the thermostat is turned up to eighty degrees. If the walls are painted pink. If grizzly bear sightings are a possibility. It's a no-go. Disagreement will not be achieved. Because place matters. The room has to be conducive to the heat of the argument. It has to be comfortable when things get uncomfortable. It can't be a distraction. So we have to be wise as serpents in picking where to disagree so that we can be innocent as doves when the stuffing hits the fan. Join Chris and Kyle as they discuss the most magnificent, incredibly terrible, and just plain stupid places to start, continue, and end an argument. Disagreers, take note.

The Four Ps: Choosing the Right Person

The Four Ps: Choosing the Right Person

Continuing a four-part series on the "Four Ps of Disagreement," this episode tackles the thorny issue of picking the right people to disagree with. You can't disagree with everyone—you don't have enough time, breath or brain power. But you also shouldn't disagree with everyone. Some aren't worth it. In fact, the wise and caring thing to do would be to dismiss or ignore them, as mean or unkind this might sound. Join Chris and Kyle as they discuss the best kind of interlocutor and the worst of the worst, including that nasty Interruptor and that dreadful Devil's Advocate.

The Four Ps: What's the Point of Disagreement?

The Four Ps: What's the Point of Disagreement?

This episode begins the last series in Season 1—a four-part series on the "Four Ps of Disagreement." Why disagree (point)? Who should we disagree with, and who should we avoid like the plague (people)? Where should we disagree (place)? How do we do it (process)? This is a focused summary and detailed application of all that Chris and Kyle have discussed in Season 1 regarding disagreement. If you are looking for the "Cliff Notes," this is it. Download, study, and get ready for the exam at Christmas dinner. Politics and religion, here we come. Join Chris and Kyle as they discuss the purpose of disagreement and why every Christian should conceive of it as a virtue and something good for the Church and the world.

The Virtues of Disagreement (Part 4): Honesty

The Virtues of Disagreement (Part 4): Honesty

Can we be honest for a sec? People don't get honesty. They can't really define it, and they don't comprehend how essential it is to any relationship. Honesty isn't truth-telling or forthrightness. It carries a different posture and tightens relationships differently. There's more affection, more involvement. Honesty is kinda like really important. For having a clear conscience. Praying to your Creator. Having and keeping friends. And confessing your sins. Join Chris and Kyle as they discuss honesty and its place in achieving disagreement in this eighth episode of Two Pour Spirits.

The Virtues of Disagreement (Part 3): Courage

The Virtues of Disagreement (Part 3): Courage

Courage is the topic of this third installment of The Virtues of Disagreement. Having to defend your argument for Christian Nationalism in front of a political pundit or asking what “indefatigable” means takes some courage. Disagreement can help with this. But fighting off jellyfish doesn’t count. And being afraid of flies makes you a pusillanimous. And running into a burning building might just be tomfoolery. And ranting about cultic churches on Facebook is just dumb. So what is courage, and how does disagreement cultivate and refine it? Join Chris and Kyle as they discuss this important virtue for the common good in the seventh episode of Two Pour Spirits.

The Virtues of Disagreement (Part 2): Humility

The Virtues of Disagreement (Part 2): Humility

In this second installment of The Virtues of Disagreement, Kyle and Chris discuss humility and how it can be cultivated in and through disagreement. But humility has got a lot of doppelgängers. Like a soft form of narcissism with a fake ID, and a false modesty that tries to wear humility's hat. Both are posers. If you're looking for the true manifestation of humility, besides Jesus, look no further than John the Baptist. He gets it. "Mission over Me" is the motto. Join Chris and Kyle as they discuss humility in this sixth episode of Two Pour Spirits.

Special Episode: Being Mindful of Dignity

Special Episode: Being Mindful of Dignity

Chris and Kyle are all about chasing down the Devilish Disagreers and setting them straight. But in light of recent events, Chris and Kyle were feeling the unction to talk about dignity. Christians care about the sacred, and we care about the worth given by the sacred. Because our neighbors are created in God's image, they have dignity, they have worth. It's difficult to remember this in the midst of an argument. Our brain gets focused on winning. Our body gets warm and we find ourselves yelling and shouting and resorting to ad hominem jabs. How do we prevent this? Can we treat others with dignity even while we're angry? How do we show others dignity even when we disagree? Join Chris and Kyle as they discuss dignity in this fifth episode of Two Pour Spirits.

The Virtues of Disagreement (Part 1): Patience

The Virtues of Disagreement (Part 1): Patience

They dealt with Disagreeable Disagreers. Everyone gave three cheers. Disagreeable Disagreers are literally the worst. And everyone despises them. But now Chris and Kyle have to convince their own traditions and tribes that disagreement can cultivate Christian character. That it's good for the Church. The "dynamic duo" will spend the next four episodes discussing the virtues of patience, humility, courage, and honesty. In this first installment, they examine patience. If disagreement is about arriving at understanding, then we have to listen to others. And listening takes patience.Join Chris and Kyle as they explore how to get there. Even if it means losing it.

Dealing with Disagreeable Disagreers: The Obstinate Person and The Instigator

Dealing with Disagreeable Disagreers: The Obstinate Person and The Instigator

Completing the trilogy of Dealing with Disagreeable Disagreers, Chris and Kyle discuss The Obstinate Person and The Instigator. How do you deal with someone who doubles down or won't budge? Similarly, how do you engage a person who attempts to upset others or revels in stirring up controversy? Chris and Kyle have some suggestions in this third episode of Two Pour Spirits.

Dealing with Disagreeable Disagreers: The Devil's Advocate and the Know-It-All

Dealing with Disagreeable Disagreers: The Devil's Advocate and the Know-It-All

Chris and Kyle continue in their discussion of characters and types of conversation-partners who make disagreement difficult. In this second installment, they discuss The Devil's Advocate and The Know-It-All.

Dealing with Disagreeable Disagreers: The Interrupter and The Deflector

Dealing with Disagreeable Disagreers: The Interrupter and The Deflector

Join Chris and Kyle as they discuss characters and types of conversation-partners who make disagreement difficult. In this episode, they discuss The Interrupter and The Deflector.