La Vida Más Chévere de Childfree Latinas

Paulette Erato

Paulette Erato hosts La Vida Más Chévere de Childfree Latina, the only biweekly Spanglish podcast about creating and living your best life, from the childfree Latina perspective. That life starts with liberating ourselves from the toxic cultural brainwashing we've all grown up with in Latinidad. Like assuming everyone wants kids...or the woman should fix her partner a plate at dinner.

F that! End the generational trauma and design best life for YOU instead. Let's get rid of the toxic BS and make decisions and life choices that make us happy instead of merely another victim of The Patriarchy.

Formerly known as the Maker Muse Podcast.

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Episodes

Just Say No to Burnout with Karenna Soto - Ep 65
Jun 11 2024
Just Say No to Burnout with Karenna Soto - Ep 65
Wanna share your thoughts? Send a text!Burnout isn't a gold medal earned at the Exhaustion Olympics. It's totally avoidable,  but in our hustle culture, we often wear exhaustion like a badge of honor. Trust that there's nothing honorable about sacrificing your health. Take it from someone who has suffered the consequences!Us childfree Latinas are especially susceptible to this because we're raised to thrive on resiliency, sacrifice, and people pleasing. For many of us, that's how our parents (and their parents) survived so that's all they know. And because we're childfree, people take for granted that we have additional time and/or energy available to work even harder. It's time to change this rigged game. Success shouldn't come at the expense of your well-being. Let's figure out how to work within our capacity limits, not against them.In this episode, guest Karenna Soto will show you:How to recognize physical and emotional signals, set boundaries, and prioritize self-care to escape hustle culture and make time for yourself.The importance of regularly checking in with your body, emotions, and energy levels to gauge your "battery life" and prioritize tasks to avoid burnout.Why making internal shifts, setting boundaries, and focusing on your health might feel uncomfortable, but are essential for thriving in a demanding world and building true resilience.Get from burnout into balance with these tools and strategies for a healthy and fulfilling lifestyle.To get the full show notes, and an episode transcript, go to PauletteErato.com/shownotes. This is episode 65.About Karenna:Meet Karenna, a seasoned expert in communication, relationship cultivation, and anxiety management. With a passion for facilitating personal evolution, Karenna thrives on guiding individuals through the complexities of interpersonal dynamics. As a keynote speaker on burnout, host of "The Fully Expressed Podcast," and a trauma-informed somatic practitioner, she brings a holistic approach to her work.Karenna specializes in empowering high-achieving women to honor and optimize their capacities, speak their truth, and navigate difficult conversations with confidence. This empowerment enables them to fully engage in both their personal and professional spheres. Through her teachings, she champions authenticity and encourages women to embrace their fullest expression in life and business. Karenna's mission is clear: to foster a community where women can flourish and thrive, embodying their true selves without reservation. Check her out on https://karennasoto.com/podcast/Support the Show.Like what you hear? Reach out to send your thoughts, and don't forget to grab a limited edition LVMC baseball t-shirt. Check it out at pauletteerato.com/shop.How to reach me: Send a text! Email me at hola @ pauletteerato dot comDM me on Instagram @pauletteerato Join the LVMC newsletter at https://pauletteerato.substack.com/ Watch on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@lavidamaschevere Support the show at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1948831/supporters/new
The Loneliest Year: A Health Scare, a Lost Circle, and the Power of Rebuilding - Ep 64
May 28 2024
The Loneliest Year: A Health Scare, a Lost Circle, and the Power of Rebuilding - Ep 64
Wanna share your thoughts? Send a text!What happens when you’re suddenly abandoned by your pack?Loneliness is a universal human emotion that can often go unaddressed and underestimated in its impact. In a society where the focus is too often on productivity and success, acknowledging feelings of isolation and vulnerability can be perceived as a weakness. In this heartfelt episode, host and childfree Latina Paulette Erato shares her personal journey navigating the complicated emotions around loneliness in the wake of a health scare.As she struggled with her health crisis, Paulette faced the harsh reality of toxic relationships that crumbled when faced with adversity. The loneliness she experienced was surprising, and painfully highlighted the stark contrast between surface-level connections and genuine support systems. Through tears and triumphs, Paulette learned the invaluable lesson of diversifying her communities to foster genuine connections.Through vulnerability and introspection, Paulette sheds light on the challenges and growth that stemmed from these experiences, and why intentional community-building is essential.To get the full show notes, and an episode transcript, go to PauletteErato.com/shownotes. This is episode 64.Support the Show.Like what you hear? Reach out to send your thoughts, and don't forget to grab a limited edition LVMC baseball t-shirt. Check it out at pauletteerato.com/shop.How to reach me: Send a text! Email me at hola @ pauletteerato dot comDM me on Instagram @pauletteerato Join the LVMC newsletter at https://pauletteerato.substack.com/ Watch on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@lavidamaschevere Support the show at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1948831/supporters/new
Where Do I Belong? Childfree Life on the Margins with Amanda B. (Part 2) - Ep 63
May 14 2024
Where Do I Belong? Childfree Life on the Margins with Amanda B. (Part 2) - Ep 63
Wanna share your thoughts? Send a text!"Where are you from?" is a question asked all too often of people who are visibly "not white." So what does it mean to be American in a melting pot of immigrants?  Picking up where we left off last time, guest Amanda reflects back on her 5 years in Japan and we touch on certain taboo topics like:race vs ethnicity vs nationalityhow the Koreans are the Irish of Asiagovernments' attacks on low birth ratesthe cult of parenthoodparental regretHost and childfree Latina Paulette and childfree guest Amanda continue to examine the cross-cultural parallels in their respective upbringings, how that led to successful partnerships with their husbands, and why the government wants to blame low birth rates for shrinking populations instead of changing immigration laws. To get the full show notes, and an episode transcript, go to PauletteErato.com/shownotes. This is episode 63.About Amanda B.:Amanda B. (she/her) is the writer, host and producer of 6 Degrees of Cats, the world's #1 cat-themed culture, history (and sometimes science) podcast. She leverages her background in research, mental health advocacy, professional development and trauma-informed violence prevention to thoughtfully connect topics as disparate as sainthood, Vikings and Valentine's May to the world's most populous domesticated pet (...or are they?). Amanda has consulted in creative direction, education and community development and volunteers as sexuality and relationships expert on free youth mental health app OkaySo.Amanda is also a musician - she leads NYC-based rock 'n' roll band, Leathered and has supported major recording artists as a guitarist on international stages. Her cats Binky and Snuggles do not appreciate her impromptu serenades.Listen to 6 Degrees of Cats https://episodes.fm/1669849217Follow Amanda on:Instagram https://www.instagram.com/6degreesofcats/Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@6degreesofcatsSupport the Show.Like what you hear? Reach out to send your thoughts, and don't forget to grab a limited edition LVMC baseball t-shirt. Check it out at pauletteerato.com/shop.How to reach me: Send a text! Email me at hola @ pauletteerato dot comDM me on Instagram @pauletteerato Join the LVMC newsletter at https://pauletteerato.substack.com/ Watch on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@lavidamaschevere Support the show at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1948831/supporters/new
Cultural Reflections: Adopted & Childfree with Amanda B. (Part 1) - Ep 62
May 7 2024
Cultural Reflections: Adopted & Childfree with Amanda B. (Part 1) - Ep 62
Wanna share your thoughts? Send a text!Continuing the study of the parallels in various cultures, we're celebrating AAPI month by exploring the world of childfree adulthood with Amanda from Six Degrees of Cats podcast in Part 1 of this two-part episode. Where do Latinidad and East Asian/Midwestern cultures overlap? You'd be surprised! And despite their radically different upbringings, Amanda and Paulette have un chingo in common. Amanda shares her journey as a transracial Korean adoptee, highlights the importance of community—and where she ultimately found hers—discusses the impact of toxic cultural norms, and reflects on her experiences in different countries. We're left wondering, how much does our upbringing, and a lack of community in those crucial formative years, impact our childfree adulthood?To get the full show notes, and an episode transcript, go to PauletteErato.com/shownotes. This is episode 62.About Amanda B.:Amanda B. (she/her) is the writer, host and producer of 6 Degrees of Cats, the world's #1 cat-themed culture, history (and sometimes science) podcast. She leverages her background in research, mental health advocacy, professional development and trauma-informed violence prevention to thoughtfully connect topics as disparate as sainthood, Vikings and Valentine's May to the world's most populous domesticated pet (...or are they?). Amanda has consulted in creative direction, education and community development and volunteers as sexuality and relationships expert on free youth mental health app OkaySo. Amanda is also a musician - she leads NYC-based rock 'n' roll band, Leathered and has supported major recording artists as a guitarist on international stages. Her cats Binky and Snuggles do not appreciate her impromptu serenades.Listen to 6 Degrees of Cats https://episodes.fm/1669849217Follow Amanda on:Instagram https://www.instagram.com/6degreesofcats/ Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@6degreesofcatsSupport the Show.Like what you hear? Reach out to send your thoughts, and don't forget to grab a limited edition LVMC baseball t-shirt. Check it out at pauletteerato.com/shop.How to reach me: Send a text! Email me at hola @ pauletteerato dot comDM me on Instagram @pauletteerato Join the LVMC newsletter at https://pauletteerato.substack.com/ Watch on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@lavidamaschevere Support the show at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1948831/supporters/new
Non-Mom May: Celebrating Otherhood by Building Community - Ep 61
Apr 23 2024
Non-Mom May: Celebrating Otherhood by Building Community - Ep 61
Wanna share your thoughts? Send a text!Since host and childfree Latina Paulette Erato was ironically born on Mexican Mother's Day (which is always observed on May 10th), she's turning May into a celebration of The Otherhood, aka Non-Mom May!Non-Mom May is a fiesta dedicated to amplifying the stories of women and non-binary individuals living fulfilled lives without children. It isn't about excluding moms; it’s about creating a space where those who aren't parents can feel seen, heard, and celebrated. As a community-building project, it'll also include a daily profile of another inspiring non-mom you can connect with plus a complementary prompt to engage followers and listeners. The goals are to honor the diverse experiences of childfree and childless people, and to foster a sense of community and support among us.How to participate in Non-Mom May:Join the newsletter to get the daily prompts emailed to you each SundayFollow Paulette on Instagram @PauletteErato and use the hashtag #NonMomMay to find your peopleCheck out the exclusive offers from the non-mom community available all month long (emailed every Sunday too!)If you're a non-mom that would like to be profiled during the celebration, fill out the form at this link: https://forms.gle/GmkhyF2eruHuedwj6To see the entire list of prompts for the LVMC #NonMomMay Challenge, join the newsletter at this link: https://pauletteerato.substack.com/By the end of May, you'll have at least 30 examples of fulfilling and thriving paths forged outside The LifeScript™, a larger flock of black sheep just like you, and the confidence to be your true self without worrying about having children.To get the full show notes, and an episode transcript, go to PauletteErato.com/shownotes. This is episode 61.Support the Show.Like what you hear? Reach out to send your thoughts, and don't forget to grab a limited edition LVMC baseball t-shirt. Check it out at pauletteerato.com/shop.How to reach me: Send a text! Email me at hola @ pauletteerato dot comDM me on Instagram @pauletteerato Join the LVMC newsletter at https://pauletteerato.substack.com/ Watch on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@lavidamaschevere Support the show at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1948831/supporters/new
Unlearning Toxic Cultural Brainwashing with Shweta Ramkumar - Ep 60
Apr 9 2024
Unlearning Toxic Cultural Brainwashing with Shweta Ramkumar - Ep 60
Wanna share your thoughts? Send a text!Self-proclaimed and proud black sheep Shweta Ramkumar sits down with resident childfree Latina Paulette Erato to discuss the parallels between Southern Asian and Latine cultures.And while both cultures can be conservative, sexist, and patriarchal, both women have been fortunate to have supportive families when it comes to their childfree choices. As a staunch antinatalist, Shweta takes her childfree advocacy one step further by championing the idea that having children without consent is an act of selfishness that begets further suffering.Key takeaways from this episode include: Advice to other black sheep on embracing their ability to see through familial bullshitHow embracing a childfree lifestyle can be empowering, but it requires deep self-awareness and clarity about personal values and prioritiesWhere to find your childfree community if yours is nonexistentTune in for what is a revealing look into the commonalities of Asian and Latine cultures, from the childfree perspective.Shout out to the fans who played LVMC Trivia on Instagram: Erik, Ryan, Amanda, and ShwetaAbout Shweta:All of Shweta's social media bios contain the following words : Educator, Foodie, Singer, Dog-Mom, Minimalist, Unconventional, Black Sheep, Childfree by Choice, Antinatalist and Egalitarian. She's a multitalented, multipassionate creative woman who has lived and travelled all over the world, worked in a variety of industries and is currently an up and coming entrepreneur with a business that marries up her passions, skillset, knowledge and experience. She's a Southern Asian woman of colour and a pioneer of dismantling the oppressive norms of the conservative, sexist and patriarchal culture and society she grew up in. As an unmarried childfree millennial woman, her life journey sets a strong example of breaking free from the shackles of disempowering cultural conformity and stand out as a proud black sheep in more ways than one. She's an avid advocate of the childfree lifestyle and is currently based in Melbourne Australia.Find her on Instagram as @childfreesrbuddysmumhttps://www.instagram.com/childfreesrbuddysmum/ To get the full show notes, and an episode transcript, go to PauletteErato.com/shownotes. This is episode 60.Support the Show.Like what you hear? Reach out to send your thoughts, and don't forget to grab a limited edition LVMC baseball t-shirt. Check it out at pauletteerato.com/shop.How to reach me: Send a text! Email me at hola @ pauletteerato dot comDM me on Instagram @pauletteerato Join the LVMC newsletter at https://pauletteerato.substack.com/ Watch on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@lavidamaschevere Support the show at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1948831/supporters/new
Candid Childfree Chat with Latino Dad & Batman Expert Erik Fontanez - Ep 59
Mar 26 2024
Candid Childfree Chat with Latino Dad & Batman Expert Erik Fontanez - Ep 59
Wanna share your thoughts? Send a text!What's it like to have a sibling that doesn't want kids? Batman enthusiast, professional marketer, sports/pop culture podcaster, and baby brother Erik Fontanez joins his childfree sister Paulette Erato to discuss this question. It's a candid and lighthearted discussion about the dynamics of being a childfree individual within their family context. Even as a father himself, Erik passionately defends the childfree lifestyle against societal norms, advocating for the validity and autonomy of individuals who choose not to have children. He also takes a break from impersonating Ron Burgundy and meme-making to impresses us with his knowledge of Batman (and sharks!), and reminisce about their YouTube endeavor, Beerocrats TV. Paulette and Erik not only shed light on the nuances of familial relationships but also champion individual choices and celebrate the diversity of lifestyles, childfree or not. Two Latine sibling podcasters = double the fun!Spoiler alert: did you know that Batman is not childfree? 🤯About Erik Fontanez:Erik Fontanez is the host of the Staches & Glasses Podcast, which covers sports, pop culture, and, as he puts it, whatever tickles the pickle. He discusses subjects such as the NBA, NFL, and a variety of other sports. The podcast also covers other entertainment aspects like movies, TV, and other popular topics. Additionally, Erik heads and operates REVANIST Social, a digital marketing agency headquartered in Orange County, California. He also has a background in writing and editing, most notably in sports journalism. His work has been featured on Bleacher Report, Yahoo! Sports, the Los Angeles Times, among others.Find him online at:Staches & Glasses Podcast (https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-pck9c-1586dd8)Instagram https://www.instagram.com/formemenotyou/Twitter/X https://twitter.com/formemenotyou/YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@formemenotyouTikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@formemenotyou/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/formemenotyouTo get the full show notes, and an episode transcript, go to PauletteErato.com/shownotes. This is episode 59.Support the Show.Like what you hear? Reach out to send your thoughts, and don't forget to grab a limited edition LVMC baseball t-shirt. Check it out at pauletteerato.com/shop.How to reach me: Send a text! Email me at hola @ pauletteerato dot comDM me on Instagram @pauletteerato Join the LVMC newsletter at https://pauletteerato.substack.com/ Watch on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@lavidamaschevere Support the show at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1948831/supporters/new
Planting Roots in Puerto Rico: The Harsh Truth about Financial, Health, and Cultural Challenges - Ep 58
Mar 12 2024
Planting Roots in Puerto Rico: The Harsh Truth about Financial, Health, and Cultural Challenges - Ep 58
Wanna share your thoughts? Send a text!Ever fantasize about moving abroad, and what that could look like in your life? Childfree couple Paulette and Ryan did just that, trading their Los Angeles-based routine for a new adventure in Puerto Rico. But moving to a tropical paradise wasn't all sausages and rainbows.The couple gets real about the unexpected challenges they faced—from dreamy island life to the not-so-glamorous realities. This candid conversation gives a behind-the-scenes look into their experience. Paulette and Ryan dish on the importance of rolling with the punches, embracing the unknown, and maybe even having a Plan B (or C, or LMNOP) in your back pocket just in case.It's an honest story about learning from stumbles, finding strength in the face of change, and knowing when to say, "enough is enough." Whether you're dreaming of a big move or navigating your own unexpected twists, this episode will leave you with a fresh perspective and a deeper appreciation for life's wild ride. Tune in for Paulette and Ryan's honest and relatable account – it's sure to inspire you to find your own adventure!Key takeaways: Life decisions are rarely permanent, and it's okay to change your mind, even when facing challenges and setbacks.Exploring one's cultural roots and living in a new place can be a valuable and enriching experience, even if plans don't work out as expected.Embracing mistakes/failures as learning experiences and using them to grow and move forward is essential in this lifetime.To get the full show notes, and an episode transcript, go to PauletteErato.com/shownotes. This is episode 58.Support the Show.Like what you hear? Reach out to send your thoughts, and don't forget to grab a limited edition LVMC baseball t-shirt. Check it out at pauletteerato.com/shop.How to reach me: Send a text! Email me at hola @ pauletteerato dot comDM me on Instagram @pauletteerato Join the LVMC newsletter at https://pauletteerato.substack.com/ Watch on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@lavidamaschevere Support the show at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1948831/supporters/new
Repercussions of Media Bias on Arabs, Muslims, & the Childfree with Professor Evelyn Alsultany - Ep 57
Feb 27 2024
Repercussions of Media Bias on Arabs, Muslims, & the Childfree with Professor Evelyn Alsultany - Ep 57
Wanna share your thoughts? Send a text!What does media bias have to do with how marginalized groups are perceived? EVERYTHING. Media bias—the way we see certain groups on TV and in movies—has a massive impact on how we view people in real life. And whether or not we see them as real human beings, or merely caricatures we don't have to care about. If people in the margins don't comport ourselves in a very specific way, then we aren't deemed worth giving a damn about. In her book, Broken: The Failed Promise of Muslim Inclusion, Professor Evelyn Alsultany painstakingly tracks the "logics that legitimize excluding people, that legitimize inequality" and rejects the need for anyone to act like a "good" to be accepted.  Aside from being an expert on Arab and Muslim representation, Evelyn is also a childfree Latina. As a Cuban-Iraqi American, her work exposing why we view Arabs and Muslims through a narrow, Hollywood-perpetuated lens can helps us understand why we might make unfair assumptions about people based on their choices, skin color, accent, religion, and so on. It's obnoxious, it's outrageous, and we shouldn't accept it! Professor Alsultany is pushing back, and she's inviting us to do it, too. This episode contains mentions of terrorism, rape, school shootings, and genocide.Evelyn's bio:Evelyn Alsultany is a professor in the Department of American Studies and Ethnicity at USC’s Dornsife College and a leading expert on the history of representations of Arabs and Muslims in the U.S. media and on forms of anti-Arab and anti-Muslim racism. Alsultany is the author of Broken: The Failed Promise of Muslim Inclusion (2022) which was listed as one of the 10 best scholarly books of 2022 by The Chronicle of Higher Education; was a finalist for the Association of American Publishers’ Prose Award; and received Honorable Mention for the Arab American National Museum book award. She is also the author of Arabs and Muslims in the Media: Race and Representation after 9/11 (2012). Alsultany has served as an educator and consultant for Hollywood studios (Netflix, Amazon, NBC Universal) and co-authored criteria, the Obeidi-Alsultany Test, to help Hollywood improve representations of Muslims. She has published op-eds in The Hollywood Reporter, Time, and Newsweek.  To get the full show notes, and an episode transcript, go to PauletteErato.com/shownotes. This is episode 57.Support the Show.Like what you hear? Reach out to send your thoughts, and don't forget to grab a limited edition LVMC baseball t-shirt. Check it out at pauletteerato.com/shop.How to reach me: Send a text! Email me at hola @ pauletteerato dot comDM me on Instagram @pauletteerato Join the LVMC newsletter at https://pauletteerato.substack.com/ Watch on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@lavidamaschevere Support the show at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1948831/supporters/new
Self-Love Essentials for Smashing The Patriarchy this Valentine's Day - Ep 56
Feb 13 2024
Self-Love Essentials for Smashing The Patriarchy this Valentine's Day - Ep 56
Wanna share your thoughts? Send a text!This special Valentine's week episode is dedicated to smashing The Patriarchy by tapping deep into the well of your self-love. Because if you want to live your vida mas chévere, if you want to design your best childfree Latina life, you need to have a healthy relationship with yourself.How do you get that? Listen in for practical tips on how to prioritize self-care rituals, savor moments of joy, and release negativity so you can reach the point where you are actively, intentionally, and fiercely in love with yourself.Because if there's one thing The Patriarchy hates, it's when women love themselves fully. Especially if those women are childfree Latinas.3 takeaways from this episode are: Self-love is crucial for designing your best life and living la vida más chévere.Neglecting self-love has detrimental effects on your self-esteem, relationships, and personal development.Actively pushing past the discomfort of learning to love yourself combats social conditioning, and can start with bite size moments.Bonus takeaway: being in love with yourself means you're never alone on Valentine's Day!Join us as we navigate the journey to self-love, celebrate our unique Latine identities, and embrace the power of self-empowerment through self-care. This episode is a loving reminder to all childfree Latinas that self-love is not only essential, but a radical act of revolution. To get the full show notes, and an episode transcript, go to PauletteErato.com/shownotes. This is episode 56.Support the Show.Like what you hear? Reach out to send your thoughts, and don't forget to grab a limited edition LVMC baseball t-shirt. Check it out at pauletteerato.com/shop.How to reach me: Send a text! Email me at hola @ pauletteerato dot comDM me on Instagram @pauletteerato Join the LVMC newsletter at https://pauletteerato.substack.com/ Watch on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@lavidamaschevere Support the show at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1948831/supporters/new
You Wanna Do What?! Creating a Childfree Legacy with Monica Rivera (Part 2) - Ep 55
Jan 30 2024
You Wanna Do What?! Creating a Childfree Legacy with Monica Rivera (Part 2) - Ep 55
Wanna share your thoughts? Send a text!Following up from the last episode about how Monica Rivera became her own best friend, this time Monica tells us how her inner critic inspired her to start her own business coaching enterprise for women of color aptly named YOU WANNA DO WHAT?! There's also the question many childfree Latinas grapple with—thanks to the toxic cultural habit that allows too many people to feel comfortably asking: what's your legacy if you aren't having children? First of all, that's a bingo AND a really narrow view of what legacy means.  Because of her early life experiences, Monica knows she'll never have children. But she will still leave a legacy that's equally as important to her, her chosen family, and her clients.If you're interested in business coaching with Monica, she invites you to book a free 45-minute clarity call to see if coaching is a fit at https://calendly.com/youwannadowhat/consultAbout Monica:Monica Rivera (she/her) is a speaker, a reformed self-doubter, and a business coach with a passion for building empowering communities. With over two decades worth of marketing experience, Monica has climbed the corporate ladder working in various Fortune 500 companies.Drawing on her own challenging experiences, Monica founded YOU WANNA DO WHAT?!, a coaching practice dedicated to helping women of color build personal brands and businesses around their passions. Monica is a TEDx speaker and has been featured in Business Insider, O Magazine, NPR, Ladies Get Paid, The Huffington Post, and more.Website: https://youwannadowhat.com Threads: https://www.threads.net/@youwannadowhatTEDx Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/monica_rivera_the_flipside_of_loneliness_jan_2019 To get the full show notes, and an episode transcript, go to PauletteErato.com/shownotes. This is episode 55.Support the Show.Like what you hear? Reach out to send your thoughts, and don't forget to grab a limited edition LVMC baseball t-shirt. Check it out at pauletteerato.com/shop.How to reach me: Send a text! Email me at hola @ pauletteerato dot comDM me on Instagram @pauletteerato Join the LVMC newsletter at https://pauletteerato.substack.com/ Watch on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@lavidamaschevere Support the show at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1948831/supporters/new
Grief Rides Shotgun: A Unique Journey through Loneliness with Monica Rivera (Part 1) - Ep 54
Jan 23 2024
Grief Rides Shotgun: A Unique Journey through Loneliness with Monica Rivera (Part 1) - Ep 54
Wanna share your thoughts? Send a text!Monica Rivera had to learn to become her own best friend. But how do you do that when you’ve lost everyone you’ve ever loved?In this two-part episode, business coach and TEDx speaker Monica shares how losing her entire biological family in a short period of time afflicted her not only with a deep grief, but also a unique kind of loneliness. And how she finally learned to cope—by discovering herself through curiosity and exploration.Curiosity + Exploration = Becoming your own BFFHear Monica speak on how she designed a thriving life in spite of her grief, the impact of origin stories, and having the audacity to chase your dreams even when the deck feels stacked against you. "Live before you die."About Monica:Monica Rivera (she/her) is a speaker, a reformed self-doubter, and a business coach with a passion for building empowering communities.With over two decades worth of marketing experience, Monica has climbed the corporate ladder working in various Fortune 500 companies.Drawing on her own challenging experiences, Monica founded YOU WANNA DO WHAT?!, a coaching practice dedicated to helping women of color build personal brands and businesses around their passions. Monica is a TEDx speaker and has been featured in Business Insider, O Magazine, NPR, Ladies Get Paid, The Huffington Post, and more.If her words or story resonate with you, Monica invites you to book a free 45-minute clarity call to see if coaching is a fit at https://calendly.com/youwannadowhat/consultWebsite: https://youwannadowhat.com Threads: https://www.threads.net/@youwannadowhatTEDx Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/monica_rivera_the_flipside_of_loneliness_jan_2019 To get the full show notes, and an episode transcript, go to PauletteErato.com/shownotes. This is episode 54.Support the Show.Like what you hear? Reach out to send your thoughts, and don't forget to grab a limited edition LVMC baseball t-shirt. Check it out at pauletteerato.com/shop.How to reach me: Send a text! Email me at hola @ pauletteerato dot comDM me on Instagram @pauletteerato Join the LVMC newsletter at https://pauletteerato.substack.com/ Watch on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@lavidamaschevere Support the show at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1948831/supporters/new
The Word of the Year: Setting Your Intentions for 2024 - Ep 53
Jan 9 2024
The Word of the Year: Setting Your Intentions for 2024 - Ep 53
Wanna share your thoughts? Send a text!If you hate new year's resolutions, or the idea of "new year, new me" then you might like a Word of the Year better. This episode guides you through setting an intention for your year ahead (as opposed to concrete SMART goals) via a seven-step method for finding the perfect word. It's a unique approach that includes reflecting on the previous year, visualizing your aspirations for the year ahead, brainstorming words that resonate with you, and much more. There's no such thing as a wrong word, so you can't fail at this like you might a resolution. Embrace your chosen word, as an intention, theme, guidepost, or mantra for the year. Discover how to pick a word that will set the tone for your best year yet. If you want a copy of the workbook mentioned (including nearly 400 example words),  don't forget to join the Substack community at this post: https://pauletteerato.substack.com/p/dive-into-2024-with-a-word-of-the-yearTo get the full show notes, and an episode transcript, go to PauletteErato.com/shownotes. This is episode 53.Word nerd websites:WordHippo.comThesaurus.comWordleSupport the Show.Like what you hear? Reach out to send your thoughts, and don't forget to grab a limited edition LVMC baseball t-shirt. Check it out at pauletteerato.com/shop.How to reach me: Send a text! Email me at hola @ pauletteerato dot comDM me on Instagram @pauletteerato Join the LVMC newsletter at https://pauletteerato.substack.com/ Watch on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@lavidamaschevere Support the show at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1948831/supporters/new
The Happiness Hit: Why Celebrating "Wins" is Essential for Confidence and More {Re-Release} - Ep 52
Dec 26 2023
The Happiness Hit: Why Celebrating "Wins" is Essential for Confidence and More {Re-Release} - Ep 52
Wanna share your thoughts? Send a text!Want more confidence? Hack your brain!While brain hacking sounds mysterious (if not illegal—and painful!), it's simply the latest way to describe an effective neuroscientific method that rewards you with a “hit” of the happiness (or pleasure) hormone, dopamine. You can harness this to increase your motivation, which then fuels your confidence and can positively impact your creativity, and even productivity. How do you access it? By recognizing your own progress, or what I call “celebrating your wins.” Is it really that simple? Yes! But how? Because when you recognize and celebrate your progress, your brain releases dopamine, aka the pleasure hormone. It works for babies, but we’ve forgotten this “one simple trick” as adults.This re-released episode was originally titled 3 Epic Reasons to Celebrate Your Wins. Voted on by Substack subscribers as the last episode of the year because they wanted to finish 2023 strong! You can too by listening to this episode for the 3 key takeaways: what's happening in your brain when you celebrate how depriving yourself of these celebrations hurts you why doing this regularly keeps you motivated and excited to get what you wantDon't forget to join the Substack community to make your voice heard on future episodes and content too: https://pauletteerato.substack.com/To get the full show notes, and an episode transcript, go to PauletteErato.com/shownotes. This is episode 52.Support the Show.Like what you hear? Reach out to send your thoughts, and don't forget to grab a limited edition LVMC baseball t-shirt. Check it out at pauletteerato.com/shop.How to reach me: Send a text! Email me at hola @ pauletteerato dot comDM me on Instagram @pauletteerato Join the LVMC newsletter at https://pauletteerato.substack.com/ Watch on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@lavidamaschevere Support the show at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1948831/supporters/new
The Healing Power of Storytelling and Reframing Motherhood with Talia Molé {Re-Release} - Ep 51
Dec 12 2023
The Healing Power of Storytelling and Reframing Motherhood with Talia Molé {Re-Release} - Ep 51
Wanna share your thoughts? Send a text!Storyteller Talia Molé, an activist, anthropologist, and artist, shares her journey confronting societal pressures, the impact of language on reproductive rights, and her mission to redefine motherhood. From fighting for a hysterectomy to battling for debt forgiveness, Talia is a powerhouse.In this re-released episode, we dive deep into the significance of storytelling, dismantling patriarchal narratives, and celebrating various forms of motherhood and family. While emphasizing the need for storytelling as a vehicle for healing and social change, Talia also touches upon how society's narrow definition of motherhood undermines the varied forms of support and love that individuals can offer to their communities. As the conversation unfolds, Paulette and Talia emphasize the importance of giving voices to different forms of motherhood beyond traditional perceptions, fostering solidarity and acceptance within their communities.Key takeaways from this episode:Embracing the concept of "child-free" over "childless" empowers individuals to recognize their freedom and choice, instead of framing their lives as lacking something.Challenging the dominant narrative of motherhood involves elevating diverse forms of motherhood, resisting societal restrictions, and sustaining life through creative practices.Through storytelling and artistic expression, individuals can advocate for bodily autonomy and work towards social change, offering healing and support to their communities.More about Talia:Talia Molé believes in the artist as a rebellious and revolutionary teacher whose purpose is to disrupt the status quo inspiring conversations that lead to greater questioning and awakening within a communal body. As an artist, she has dedicated her time to understanding social change through different social spaces and disciplines within academia and beyond. She molded and polished her role as an activist/scholar with the help of a B.F.A. in Theatre Performance, an M.S. in Counseling, and a PhD in Anthropology and Social Change. Her field of research and exploration revolves around lived expressions of mother/motherhood/mothering, within marginalized populations, that serve as a radical remembrance of matriarchal ancestry, lineage and community.Talia is the founder of "We are Phoenixing" a creative consultation business dedicated to mentoring creative practitioners.For more about Talia, check out the extended show notes and transcript at PauletteErato.com/shownotes. This is episode 51.Support the Show.Like what you hear? Reach out to send your thoughts, and don't forget to grab a limited edition LVMC baseball t-shirt. Check it out at pauletteerato.com/shop.How to reach me: Send a text! Email me at hola @ pauletteerato dot comDM me on Instagram @pauletteerato Join the LVMC newsletter at https://pauletteerato.substack.com/ Watch on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@lavidamaschevere Support the show at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1948831/supporters/new
Living Your Best Life: 6 Tips for Achieving La Vida Más Chévere - Ep 50
Nov 28 2023
Living Your Best Life: 6 Tips for Achieving La Vida Más Chévere - Ep 50
Wanna share your thoughts? Send a text!It's celebration time! Having achieved 50 episodes, it's a great time to use this milestone moment to look back on where we've been, how we got here, and where we're going to continue this journey of living our best lives—la vida más chévere! With that are 6 recurrent themes that guide the essence of host Paulette Erato's life work, which is to help us all dismantle and rebel against the toxic cultural norms we all grew up with so that we can all live our best lives.What does living your best life mean? Former guests give their interpretations, including everything from moving to your parent's homeland to rebelling against society's "shoulds," and even falling in love.If you're wondering how you can design your best life, here are some real-life examples from people doing the damn thing!Don't forget to pre-order Rena's book The Sex You Want: A Shameless Journey to Deep Intimacy, Honest Pleasure, and a Life You Love (aff link): https://amzn.to/3uA4Uf6 To get the full show notes, and an episode transcript, go to PauletteErato.com/shownotes. This is episode 50.Thanks to guests, mentors, and fans: Talia Molé, Rena Martine, Dra. Mildred Ortiz, Jamie Feinberg, and Fede Vargas all for contributing to this episode; Michelle Jackson and Ami Thakker Raval for their sage advice; and a special shout out to podcast fans Rosalba, Ryan, Deanna, Tori, and Jen! Support the Show.Like what you hear? Reach out to send your thoughts, and don't forget to grab a limited edition LVMC baseball t-shirt. Check it out at pauletteerato.com/shop.How to reach me: Send a text! Email me at hola @ pauletteerato dot comDM me on Instagram @pauletteerato Join the LVMC newsletter at https://pauletteerato.substack.com/ Watch on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@lavidamaschevere Support the show at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1948831/supporters/new
A Childfree Destination Wedding: Worth the Drama with Andrea Watt - Ep 49
Nov 14 2023
A Childfree Destination Wedding: Worth the Drama with Andrea Watt - Ep 49
Wanna share your thoughts? Send a text!Another childfree wedding success story —this time, it's a childfree destination wedding! Bride Andrea Watt shares her experience in throwing the childfree wedding she always wanted: at sunset on the beach with only a small group of adults as guests. It doesn't sound very demanding for a bride.But of course, wedding planning is never without drama. With a huge family (45 cousins on her mom's side alone!) in 2 different states, and people without passports, how did Andrea and her husband pull off a childfree destination wedding in Cozumel?Listen in to find out how this childfree destination wedding came together, the compromises that led to it being celebrated in 3 separate settings, what really caused the drama, and the fun tidbit about Andrea's wedding dress arriving in Mexico days AFTER she did. For additional fun, check out the YouTube video for a glimpse of Andrea's gorgeous and unconventional wedding dress.Your takeaway from this episode: a childfree wedding is absolutely worth it.***Want to send in your childfree wedding story? Submit your story at pauletteerato.com/childfreewedding ***Support the Show.Like what you hear? Reach out to send your thoughts, and don't forget to grab a limited edition LVMC baseball t-shirt. Check it out at pauletteerato.com/shop.How to reach me: Send a text! Email me at hola @ pauletteerato dot comDM me on Instagram @pauletteerato Join the LVMC newsletter at https://pauletteerato.substack.com/ Watch on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@lavidamaschevere Support the show at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1948831/supporters/new
Latines Embracing Mental Health: Shattering Therapy Taboos with Dra. Mildred Ortiz - Ep 48
Oct 31 2023
Latines Embracing Mental Health: Shattering Therapy Taboos with Dra. Mildred Ortiz - Ep 48
Wanna share your thoughts? Send a text!Today's toxicity ripe for dismantling: the stigma around therapy. Brown people prefer not to air their dirty laundry with strangers, but bury their mental and emotional distress for fear of being labeled weak or crazy. All that does is create a cycle of pain that becomes harder and harder to break with, and is passed on to future generations.Enough! You owe it to yourself to take advantage of therapy if it's available to you, or use free community resources—even if you think there's nothing wrong with you, there's plenty wrong with the society you live in and are shaped by. This week's guest Dra. Mildred Ortiz is the child of immigrants, and has dedicated her career to providing clinical support to individuals from diverse backgrounds, including monolingual Spanish speakers, in Los Angeles, CA. In this episode, she'll explain:how to shop for a therapisthow to vet a therapist: questions to ask at the beginning of therapyhow to end therapy successfullyAbout Dra. Mildred Ortiz:Dra. Mildred Ortiz is a Clinical Psychologist (PSY28287), licensed in the state of California. Dra. Ortiz is native to Los Angeles and a child of Immigrant parents. She has worked in the mental health field for nearly 20 years and has  grown in her professional experiences serving diverse communities nationally, working with adults, couples, children and families. Dra. Ortiz has provided clinical support and guidance to patients of different walks of life, experiences, cultures and traditions, including monolingual Spanish speakers. As a psychotherapist, Dra. Ortiz has helped people faced with overwhelming life stressors, trauma, anxiety, and depression. She has provided therapeutic support to individuals feeling troubled by recent life transitions, grief and loss, and relationship issues involving intimacy and communication. In the years serving as a clinical psychologist, Dra Ortiz have come to appreciate and value the human desire and need to relate to others in healthy ways, while maintaining a sense of autonomy. She strives to help clients create healthy boundaries for themselves, while taking great care in exploring, identifying and preserving cultural and traditional value systems within their relationships. Dra. Ortiz is Founder and CEO of Buena Vibra Psychological Services, Inc., a psychotherapy group private practice located in Cerritos, CA. She is also host of her own Podcast, Buena Vibra with Dra. Ortiz. Find her online at:Website https://buenavibrapsych.orgYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@BuenavibrapsychFacebook/InstagramSupport the Show.Like what you hear? Reach out to send your thoughts, and don't forget to grab a limited edition LVMC baseball t-shirt. Check it out at pauletteerato.com/shop.How to reach me: Send a text! Email me at hola @ pauletteerato dot comDM me on Instagram @pauletteerato Join the LVMC newsletter at https://pauletteerato.substack.com/ Watch on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@lavidamaschevere Support the show at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1948831/supporters/new
Let's Get to 100...on Substack! *Hiatus* - Ep 47
Sep 5 2023
Let's Get to 100...on Substack! *Hiatus* - Ep 47
Wanna share your thoughts? Send a text!As you heard last week, we're moving to Puerto Rico! So while that's happening, *new* episodes will be on pause. Because as I always tell you: rest is required! So I'm taking a break from producing new content.   Don't worry, you can still get your regular dose of La Vida Más Chévere over on Substack. In fact, if you can help me get to 100 readers on Substack, imagine all of the cultural bullshit we could overcome together! Please subscribe now at pauletteerato.com/blog, then share the link for the LVMC Substack with all your friends, coworkers, the dog walker, the dentist. No lie, my dental hygienist told me she listens to this show, maybe yours wants to, too! Why Substack? Well that's what this episode is about: deeper dives, building a community, behind the scenes shenanigans, etc. Oh also, a certain man-child/owner of a social platform hates it! So really, it's a win-win! *You* are the link between this show, the Substack, and the rest of the world. So as a thank you for subscribing (and sharing), I've got a small gift for you. You'll get it in your inbox once you subscribe.Thanks for your help and I'll see you Substack, where we're working on a group name. Come join us!Support the Show.Like what you hear? Reach out to send your thoughts, and don't forget to grab a limited edition LVMC baseball t-shirt. Check it out at pauletteerato.com/shop.How to reach me: Send a text! Email me at hola @ pauletteerato dot comDM me on Instagram @pauletteerato Join the LVMC newsletter at https://pauletteerato.substack.com/ Watch on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@lavidamaschevere Support the show at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1948831/supporters/new