I've seen it repeatedly in my dating life and heard stories about people withdrawing after sex from the Dating Intentionally community. For some reason, after you have sex with someone you're newly dating, they tend to pull away. Why does this happen? This episode lays out the five most common reasons this happens and what you can do it about it in the future when/if this happens to you again. Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you tried tracking your dates? This episode features Jillian Romero Chaves, the founder of Clara For Daters (Not A Dating App), which lets daters track their dates and stay accountable. Jillian talks about how taking notes on her dates using Clara helped her (and other users) gain clarity in the process and make more informed decisions. Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  About Jillian Romero Chaves Jillian Romero Chaves is a dynamic visionary who has pioneered transformative changes in the dating and relationship health landscape. As the Founder and CEO of Clara for Daters, she leads a revolution that empowers individuals to make informed, purposeful choices in their dating lives. Check out Clara For Daters: https://www.clarafordaters.com/ Connect with Jillian: https://www.instagram.com/clarafordaters Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dating outside your type seems to work for many people, but how do you do it? And what if it leads to dates where there's no attraction? This episode walks you through all my tips and tricks for dating outside your type and how to navigate a lack of attraction when it happens. I also share my experience, my type, and how my fiance doesn't fit into it at all. Thank you to everyone who shared what their type is on Instagram! You can slide into my DMs anytime: @dating.intentionally. My type: https://www.instagram.com/p/CexiXgIL33l/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"If he wanted to he would" is one of the worst dating rules and on this episode Ali Jackson, the host of Finding Mr. Height, shares why. We also get into what happened when I hired Ali as a dating coach 2 years ago, dating through grief, meeting dates IRL, how to stop minimizing parts of yourself in dating, Ali's personal dating "rules" and so much more. Ali is a wealth of knowledge and you're going to love her practical dating advice!  Follow Ali: https://www.instagram.com/findingmrheight/?hl=en Slide into my DMs: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Get all Dating Intentionally Episodes on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/DIPodcast About Ali Jackson: Ali Jackson is an NYC-based dating & relationship coach who’s been there, in the trenches, looking for her person. She’s learned to own her needs, embrace her feelings, and communicate both directly. And she’s helping you do the same! Because when you ask for what you want, you just might get it. You can find her on social media @findingmrheight and on her website findingmrheight.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

While we spend so much time looking out for red flags in early dating, we have to pay attention to green flags too! This episode features my top 10 green flags to look out for in dating, as well as more green flags submitted to the pod from the Dating Intentionally community on IG. As you listen to these green flags, I want you to reflect on whether or not YOU embody them as well. You know what they say: you need to have the qualities in a partner that you want. Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When do you talk about income? How do you approach dating if you're in debt? Is it a red flag if they bring up crypto? These are just a few topics money coach Delyanna Barros and I discuss in this episode. You'll learn how and when to bring up essential topics around finances in early dating, what red and green flags to look for and how to talk about money in a playful way. Follow Delyanne: https://www.instagram.com/delyannethemoneycoach/ Get the 90-Day Money Slay Guide: https://delyannethemoneycoach.com/get-started/ Slide into my DMs: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Get all Dating Intentionally Episodes on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/DIPodcast About Delyanne Barros: Delyanne Barros is an investing coach and the founder of Delyanne The Money Coach LLC. Growing up poor and as a Brazilian-born immigrant, she believed that money was something extremely difficult to earn, manage, and grow. After paying off $150,000 in student loan debt and becoming a millionaire she now shares her knowledge with over 500,000 followers across all her social media platforms. Her signature program, Slay the Stock Market, teaches new investors how to become financially independent and retire early and has over 5,700 students enrolled. She has been named one of the most influential voices of money by Time and she was also the host of Diversifying, the first personal finance podcast produced by CNN. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode breaks down exactly how to approach hard conversations with someone you're romantically involved with so you never have to say the dreaded words "we need to talk." Listen to the full episodes for my scripts, tips, and mistakes to avoid when starting serious conversations, as well as my experiences doing this with an avoidant and securely attached partners. This episode will help you whether you're single, newly dating someone, or in a relationship. Episode 31 about love bombing: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6NAHgL1v8qivTCUQe6r604?si=15570c53bb90402a Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Would you still want to date someone after going through their phone or talking to their mom before going out with them? In this episode, we hear from Alli Goldberg, the mastermind and host of the incredible live comedy show Love Isn't Blind. We discuss how she came up with the concept of a dating show where men can't speak, why she's over dating apps, and what she's learned about how men and women date from running Love Isn't Blind. We also learn how to make dating fun by following your interests instead of going out to try to meet someone. At the end, I talk about my experience at Love Isn't Blind here in Berekely, CA and I'm going again in SF on May 18th! Connect with Alli: https://www.instagram.com/alli_goldi Check out Love Isn't Blind: https://www.loveisntblind.co/ Slide into my DMs: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Join Dating Intentionally on Patreon for all solo episodes: https://www.patreon.com/DIPodcast About Alli Goldberg Allison Goldberg is a comedian and creator whose work has been covered by LA Magazine, Good Morning America, The Savage Lovecast, WIRED, NPR, The LA Times, and more. Most recently, she sold her live comedy show How To Break Up By Text to Audible. In that show and format, celebrities perform your break-up texts, and then an expert joins as we break down your break-up. Guests for season 1 included Bobby Moynihan, Margaret Cho, Iliza Shlesinger, and many others. For the past year, she's been hosting her newest creation, Love Isn't Blind, a comedy/dating show where the men can't speak.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever gotten the ick in dating? In this episode, you'll learn what the ick is, the three categories of icks, and how to tell if your icks are dealbreakers. I also talk about why you get the ick later on in a relationship sometimes and how I addressed mine in my current relationship. Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like your expectations are too high? Maybe they are, maybe they aren't. Listen in on this amazing conversation with Damona Hoffman, who's been a dating coach for over 15 years. We talk about her new book, "F The Fairy Tale" and the four dating myths, specifically the myth about dating rules. I love what Damona has to say about embracing the messiness in dating, how expectations set us up for constant disappointment and why being realistic isn't the same thing as settling. We also talk about dating apps, dating outside of your race and navigating familial and cultural expectations in dating. Connect with Damona: https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/ Get Damona's book: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1541602250 Connect with me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Join the Patreon for new solo episodes: https://www.patreon.com/DIPodcast About Damona Hoffman Celebrity Dating Coach Damona Hoffman has been coaching singles on how to find love online and offline for over 15 years. Her articles appear regularly in The LA Times and The Washington Post. Plus, she’s a regular on-air contributor to The Drew Barrymore Show, NPR, and NBC’s Access Daily. Damona also starred in two A+E Networks’ TV shows: #BlackLove and A Question of Love. Her weekly podcast Dates & Mates has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Huff Post, Bustle and tops the charts in the Relationships category on the major podcast platforms. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever been ghosted? Afraid of getting ghosted in the future? This episode has you covered with exactly what to do (and not do) when you inevitably get ghosted, as well as my thoughts on why people do it in the first place. If you tend to ghost people, this episode will walk you through how to stop doing that and start sending anti-ghost texts instead. My anti-ghost texts: https://www.instagram.com/p/C2VJ8QOxRtv/?img_index=1 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dating after a divorce or a big breakup can feel daunting, confusing, and overwhelming. In today's episode, life and dating coach Sade Curry discusses how to navigate dating after divorce, discover your needs in a partner, and enjoy the process of getting to know new people. Sade also discusses how she met her husband on Bumble after her divorce. Follow Sade Curry: https://www.instagram.com/sadecurry/ Connect with me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ About Sade Curry: Sade Curry is a Life Coach and host of the Dating after Divorce podcast. She coaches and teaches women real strategies for recovering from divorce, and finding love again. Her coaching philosophy is to help women succeed by practicing personal leadership and autonomy in their life, work and relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it mean to settle? Is accepting someone as they are the same thing as settling? This episode breaks down the difference between the two in dating and relationships, and why practicing acceptance is so important. I also get to a few questions about this topic in the episode that you asked me on Instagram! Connect with me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Get my dating troubleshooting guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Get instant access to my course on identifying your needs: https://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

5 juicy dating questions we get into: Should you give someone a chance to change/prove themself? How do you know if you’re aligned after 3 months of dating? What’s the best way to communicate after a first date? What do you do if your friends don’t like your partner? If you live in Brooklyn can you date someone in NJ? Ilana also talks about how she met her fiance on Hinge! It’s a great story.  Connect with Ilana on IG Slide into my DMs @dating.intentionally Get more on the blog About Ilana Dunn: Ilana Dunn is a Millennial and Gen Z dating expert, content creator, and host of Seeing Other People, a Spotify Top 50 Viral Podcast and one of Elite Daily’s “Podcasts You Need to be Listening to This Year.” After a two-year stint as Hinge's Lead Content Creator, Ilana created Seeing Other People to help daters all over the world feel less alone and more empowered in their dating lives. Ilana has been interviewed on over 80 podcasts, featured in The Washington Post, PopSugar, and The Independent, and has received nominations for The Webby Awards and The Shorty Awards. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you just started seeing them and you're having doubts, this episode might confirm (or deny) what your gut is telling you. These 10 signs don't mean a new relationship will 100% not work out, but if one or more are present, then that's going to be a potentially painful relationship for you to be in.  Don't forget to rate, subscribe and follow Dating Intentionally! Connect with me on IG: @dating.intentionally More on the blog: intentionally.dating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why is asking for our needs to be met so scary? And how can we be our own secure base? These are the two main questions I explored with guest Rikki Cloos, who wrote an amazing book called Anxious Hearts Guide. We talk about what's happening when our anxious attachment is activated, what to do when we feel anxious in early dating situations, what's normal to need in a relationship and how to create more emotional safety for ourselves in dating. Rikki also talks about how she ended up in a long-term relationship with an avoidant attacher, and how they're healing their attachment wounds together. I love this episode!  Connect with Rikki on IG Get Anxious Hearts Guide Connect with me on IG @dating.intentionally Get my free dating troubleshooting guide About Rikki Cloos Rikki Cloos is a writer and content creator with a captivating authenticity and passion for attachment healing. Her book, The Anxious Hearts Guide - which has already sold thousands of copies in the United States and 16+ countries - is an approachable, accessible, and enlightening window into why we do the frustrating things that we do to chase love and how to rise above it.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Don't you hate it when you meet someone amazing, but their kissing skills aren't up to par? Don't worry. There are ways to address this. In this episode, I'm sharing different ways to handle a "bad" kisser and how to make sure YOU aren't the one whose kissing skills need work. I also talk about how to ask for consent before kissing without making it awkward.  Get my new free Dating Troubleshooting Guide!  Connect with me on IG: @dating.intentionally More on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like you have no idea how to flirt? Does flirting feel awkward? Benjamin Camras, aka The Flirt Coach, shares his best tips for getting started with flirting, even if you have no idea how to do it. We discuss the five dimensions of the flirt, the four different flirting styles and how to use body language in a subtle way to flirt in real life, without feeling awkward. Flirting is a skill you can learn!  Get my date tracker!  Follow Benjamin Camras: @benjamincamras Connect with me: @dating.intentionally More on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/ About Benjamin: Benjamin Camras is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious party goer, Benjamin now helps boy-crazy singles and daters flirt with more confidence and clarity. As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place of more focus, empowerment, and FUN. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I get so many questions about what to do when the check comes at the end of the date. The easy answer is, that whoever asks is who pays. However, it goes so much deeper when it comes to heterosexual dating. In this episode, I deep dive into the reasons why women believe men should pay and why men are increasingly bitter about it. What we're experiencing now in dating is the growing pains of traditional courtship between men and women catching up with the progression towards gender equality (even though we're not fully there yet). Listen to hear what straight and queer folks had to say about the expectation of who pays on the first date. Continue the convo on IG: @dating.intentionally more on the blog: intentionally.dating I'm also on TikTok: @dating.intentionally Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like you have to wait until you lose weight to start dating? Are your feelings about your looks holding you back from getting on the apps or putting yourself out there? In this episode, I talk to Leah Kern, and anti-diet dietitian, about how to approach realistically improving your body image. Because you can't go from hating how you look to loving your body overnight. Leah shares so many helpful tips and insights for getting started on improving your body image so you can date with more confidence.  Dating Intentionally on IG: @dating.intentionally More on the blog: intentionally.dating About Leah Kern: Leah Kern is an Anti-Diet Dietitian and Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor who helps truth-seekers heal their relationships with food and body to unlock a more aligned and fulfilling life. Connect with Leah on her site: Leahkernrd.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices